Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

I Give Up

Today I feel like giving up. Oh, I’ve felt this way before but I confess at this moment, in the very moment that I type these words, I am at the most difficult time and place of my life. This is real. Honest. Transparent. Probably too transparent. Yet something tells me to write it and be honest because I know there are others who feel like giving up too. I know it. I pray that God brings those dear ones to this blog and encourages them.

“Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God.” Psalm 42:11

Why are you downcast, oh my soul?

I’ll tell you why I feel like giving up, though I know it won’t adequately capture what’s going on with me. It’d be the same if you were writing about your heartache. It’s difficult to convey the depth and width of the pain. As I write this, I’ve been battling what specialists believe is a persistent and chronic lyme disease. After two plus years of treatment, I’ve made no progress. I endure severe pain on a daily basis. I feel like a 37 year-old trapped in an 87 year-old’s body. I have a vast array of symptoms in addition to the pain, including insomnia (which is why I’m writing this at 1am), gastric issues, POTS symptoms affecting the heart, dizziness, chronic sinus and other infections, splitting headaches, intense fatigue and more. I struggle with depression and anxiety with full-blown panic attacks (which I have never experienced before). I also struggle with the results of multiple prescribed medications and having to withdraw from them. There’s a lot more but I won’t babble on. I can only say that it’s horrible having to live this way, and I have no reason to believe I’ll find remission any time soon.

In addition to the chronic illness, my life is riddled with what seems like problem after problem, trial after trial. It’s almost become comical. I won’t go into detail as much of it is private, but I can only say that I often, throughout the day, shake my head in disbelief at how badly everything goes. Relationships. Finances. Events. Treatment. Even day to day living…like with the household. Everything. Everything goes wrong. It’s shocking. It’s so disheartening. It’s so hard to push forward. That’s why I want to give up.

Now, when I say I want to give up, I’m not saying that I want to take my life. That is something I will never do. I would never do that to my daughter. I would never do that to my Lord. When I say “give up”, what I mean is “give in”. I feel like giving in to despair. I feel like giving in to full-blown grief. I feel like isolating. I don’t feel like going shopping, being social or even talking, really. I feel like spending my time with my kiddo and just letting it all fall apart, since it seems to be always falling apart around me anyways. That’s how I feel, but let me assert with confidence that giving up is not the answer.

Suffering is a part of life, and some suffer more than others. Some Christians suffer more than others. It’s life in a fallen world. Sickness, stress, pain, divorce, brokenness…it was never part of God’s perfect plan. Sin brought it in along with death and decay. We live in a world that groans because of the pain and sin and destruction. We await with hurting hearts the redemption of the returning Messiah. It’s a mess, friends. I know this is the truth and so I do not resent God for the pain I’m experiencing. I know He didn’t send it to me or inflict me with it. Now, He may be allowing it, but that’s not the same thing. He has promised to make beauty from ashes and to redeem our suffering. He is the Rescuer. Deliverer. Savior. Father. King of Glory. He is all and everything and perfection.


““The Rock, his work is perfect, for all his ways are justice. A God of faithfulness and without iniquity, just and upright is he.” Deut. 32:4

“To the King of ages, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory forever and ever. Amen.” 1 Timothy 1:17

“For the Lord your God is a merciful God. He will not leave you or destroy you or forget the covenant with your fathers that he swore to them.” Deut 4:31

““For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”” Rev 21:4

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28


I believe what God says in His Word. I believe it, but I’m weak. I’m broken. Brokenhearted. Broken in body. Broken Spiritually. So here’s the good news….God can and does work in our brokenness. If you’re broken and hurting like me, know that God isn’t finished. He is working and stronger than ever in our weakness and brokenness. We are not alone. We are not lost causes. God has not and will not ever forsake us…..even if we give up for a while.


“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matt 11:28

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31

“The Lord is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation; this is my God, and I will praise him, my father’s God, and I will exalt him.” Ex 15:2

“He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.” Isaiah 40:29


We may not know what God is doing…I don’t. I don’t understand it. I ask Him, “why? Why me Lord? How can You love me and allow this? Am I cursed? Have I done something wrong to have earned this constant pain?” I don’t know what He’s doing but I can trust in Him because He said I could and because He is good. He is God. He is love. I trust in His character and His promises. He never promised a perfect or pain-free life on earth. He promised salvation from the grave and everlasting life. He promised we would not drown when the waters overtook us. We would not burn when the fire burned all around. We would be pressed but not crushed. We would be broken but not destroyed.


“For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” 1 Cor 13:12


All we need to do is cling to Him and wait. Wait. One more day. One more hour if need be. We need to wait and not give up. Can we not wait for one hour? We can through the power of the Holy Spirit my friends. We can. I’m praying for you. Please pray for me too. And remember….

God is good and He loves you!

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” Romans 15:13


Love & Connection…Basic Human Needs


God created us all with basic needs. We need oxygen to breath. We need nutrition and water to sustain life. We need shelter and clothing. These are all needs, but we shouldn’t forget that one of our basic human needs is for love and connection. God created us to NEED love and to feel connected to other people, both in friendship and also in romantic/intimate love.

“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Genesis 2:18

It wasn’t good for man (or woman for that matter) to be alone. Alone. So many people are feeling alone at this very moment…their hearts aching to feel loved and connected. It’s such a strong longing that it can consume a person. It can steal his joy and leave him wondering how he will persevere through another day without it. God said it wasn’t good for man to be alone. We were made for connection.

We were made for romance too…

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19

Sounds a little racy for the Bible right? God created romance. He created sexual intimacy. He created us to desire that connection. This is a such a strong need that it often leads people to be tempted to sin because of the lack of fulfillment. A husband or wife who is cold to his or her spouse is tempting them to sin. Is that an excuse to sin? Of course not! There’s never an excuse to give in to sin, but there is responsibility there.

“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:3-5

“So they are no longer two but one flesh.” Matthew 19:6

One flesh…in both spirit and body. They are one. God made us to need to be one with someone. He designed us to need to be one in a spiritual and emotional connection. A deep connection…one that is exclusive and evident in their lives. Couples who have this connection and oneness are so in sync with one another that they finish each other’s sentences and anticipate their beloved’s next move. They know each other’s interests, goals, dreams, likes and dislikes. They understand their spouse’s fears, struggles, joys and needs. As they grow and change, they change together and continue to learn about each other.

God also made us to need physical oneness. I mentioned it a few paragraphs ago. Sex. Intimacy. Connecting in a way that, again, is exclusive and vulnerable and a primal part of the human experience. Do you know how difficult it is for most people to live without sexual intimacy? Singles usually struggle immensely in this area, as do married people in lonely and cold marriages. Why struggle? Because humans were designed to need sexual intimacy and oneness, and we ache for it when we don’t have it.

So many marriages are made up of people who are still two separate beings. There are many reasons this happens. Some reasons are due to sin, ignorance of God’s plan, interference from outsiders and a general fading away of love. In these cases, there is every reason to hope for and work towards fixing the problem and connecting with your spouse.

Others have a much more difficult problem. There are many, many couples who married for all the wrong reasons. There are couples who married before they were believers only to find out that they shared none of the same values, passions and goals. There are marriages consisting of one believer and one non-believer.

These problems are not so easy, folks. I think sometimes The Church as whole looks on these issues as being minor or of little consequence. People are told just to “keep their vows” and not worry about the rest. Well, I’m not arguing that we shouldn’t keep vows or that marriages with issues should just be abandoned. I’m not advocating for divorce…not at all. I do think that Christians need to be very careful not to dismiss the heartache, pain and loneliness that people are feeling in their broken marriages. We need to have empathy and compassion. We need to understand that what we are advising is not easy at all…it’s literally denying one’s basic needs in service and obedience to God.

There are few things as destructive and hurtful as a marriage that has no love and connection. It’s devastating for the children. It’s a daily emotional and spiritual and even physical beating for the unhappy and unfulfilled husband and wife. Is there hope? In Christ there’s always hope, but that doesn’t mean the day to day life is any easier. It doesn’t mean the tears shed every night aren’t real. The pain is real. The loneliness is like your heart being trampled and abandoned day by day, and oftentimes no one even knows it’s going on behind closed doors. They suffer alone.

Connection. How can people feel connected if their core values are different? How can they feel loved if sexual intimacy is always withheld? How can marriage be successful if the two people in it are complete opposites and have no understanding of each other? Sometimes they fail. Sometimes there’s divorce. Sometimes bad marriages are so painful that people become physically sick. Sometimes sexual immorality enters in. Sometimes there’s depression and suicide….

…but sometimes there are miracles. Sometimes people find God and change. Sometimes wives read the Word and start to follow the leadership of their husbands. Sometimes husbands learn to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. Sometimes love and connection is rekindled, or formed for the first time. Sometimes people changed profoundly by the hand of God and the movement of the Holy Spirit. It does happen.

I very strongly want to encourage my fellow believers to lift up in prayer people in lonely, broken, loveless marriages. We were designed to need love and connection. If we don’t have that connection, there is suffering and pain. It’s not a minor issue. It’s like living without air. Like drowning. It’s a BIG issue.

So stop downplaying it. Stop giving easy answers. Give scripture, yes, but acknowledge that it’s not an easy road. Most of the time one spouse is willing to try but the other isn’t. Many times one won’t even admit there’s a problem. No one is guaranteed a good outcome. There are couples who never had love for one another and maybe never will. Acknowledge that their pain is real before you tell them just to choose to love. Have some compassion.

If you’re reading this and you’re longing for love and connection, just know that you’re not alone and your feelings are valid. You were made to need love and connection. It is a deep and basic need. My prayer for you is that you will be able to withstand the temptation to sin, even in your pain. I pray you are able to find love and connection to the right person, your spouse if you are married, or in a future spouse if single. Praying for all of my lonely and hurting friends tonight that you would feel the comfort of a God who loves you, that you will not fall into despair and that you would remember that your life is important to God and to your loved ones.

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The Worst and the Best Year – 2015


It’s been a while since I’ve posted a blog here and much of that is due to the good, the bad and the ugly moments of this past year for me and my family. As we approach the end of this year and the start of a new, I can confidently say that 2015 has been one of the worst my family has known. Yet, somehow, it’s also been one of the best. I thought I’d take a moment to share with you, my friends, my readers, in hopes that this testimony is an encouragement and brings glory to God.

The Worst Year

My life hasn’t always been easy. In fact, it’s been pretty rough and I’ve experienced some seriously difficult trials and challenges along the way. Still, 2015 brought me pain and struggle on a variety of levels that I had never before experienced. As I look back, I can hardly recognize myself in this past year. There were so many turbulent changes and dark times, some due to my own sin and others for unknown reasons.

The year started like any other, full of hopes and prayers and sincere but short-lived resolutions. It started out good, with the Lord putting a new ministry in our hearts that came to fruition. However, in the midst of the joy of serving the Lord and meeting wonderful new friends, the health issues I had been struggling with for several years suddenly got ridiculously worse. The physical pain, brain fog and other multi-system symptoms seemed to fire up to new levels. I prayed for healing. I sought help from various doctors. I finally came to find out I have a chronic illness and one that is very difficult and expensive to treat.

As I started to try and raise funds for treatment, I found myself struggling with depression and the feeling of being alone. I felt like no one could understand. With an invisible illness, people expect you to go about life as usual, not realizing how much pain you are in and how difficult it is to function. I have struggled to keep up with my daughter, to do her schooling, to keep my house in any sort of order and to teach lessons. My health got worse and worse. I’m now in treatment, but I’m still undergoing a lot of testing and the costs are a great burden to my family.

Not only did my declining health make 2015 a difficult year, but I also struggled with sin of the heart. I believe in being real and authentic as a believer, and so I confess that I allowed my heart to entertain sin for a time, and as sin tore up my heart, my whole household suffered tremendously. Out of respect for my family and others who were involved, I won’t share details here. I will tell you that sin, even when it’s in the heart, is destructive and ruins marriages, families, friendships and lives. As I mentioned earlier, there were times when I couldn’t even recognize myself.  I’m so very ashamed of how I stumbled, and so very grateful for the grace and love of the Savior and from my husband that brought me back to rightness.

The Best Year

It’s a funny thing about grace and forgiveness. I think it sometimes takes a great fall to be able to see how precious and powerful grace is. As a Christian of many years, I felt so confident and strong in my faith and my life that I would never have imagined myself falling as I did into sinful attitudes and thoughts. It was no coincidence that it all happened in the same year as the Lord brought my family into an incredible ministry.

In February 2015 God put on our hearts to start a Bible study in our home and to open it up to folks in our area. The people who came were strangers to us, and yet the Lord put on their hearts to come. I can’t even begin to express the blessing these brothers and sisters have been in our lives. We have truly formed a community of believers who are taking their walk with Jesus to the next level. Some are brand new believers. Some came from other churches and religions. We had 7 baptisms in 2015 alone. The Lord has done amazing things and we have just stood in awe of Him, grateful for the opportunity to be used and to serve His people.

Is it a coincidence that this is when temptation entered and the father of lies began to send in his fiery darts? No. Of course not. I’m not saying that I had no part in my sin. I take full responsibility. However, looking back I can see that the enemy was out to destroy the work that God was doing. The good news is that God fought for us and met me where I was and offered me amazing grace. He gave me a husband who is faithful, forgiving, patient and loving beyond what anyone could ask. Grace. Redemption. Restoration.

This past year has been one of the best years of my life because I finally see what it’s all about to be serving the Lord in ministry. I see what fellowship and community is for. God gave us a vision for church that is so beautiful and Biblical and real. We have met such dear people who have become family to us. We have become a family on mission.

This year has been the best and the worst. It was horrible at times but, because of grace and restoration, it has been incredible also. I have been reminded of who I am and where I am weak. I have discovered how easily sin can drag you down and harm you and those you love. I have understood on a deeper level how sweet forgiveness is and how important it is to stand on the Word of God.

As we close up this year, my family is stronger than ever. My faith is steady upon the Rock. I am still sick, but the Lord is my strength, my comfort and my provider. He continues to work and to accomplish awesome things as we watch in wonder. I can say that I’m excited for the new year and what the Lord will do.

I want to encourage you, as we approach 2016, to take time to get your house in order. Get rid of any sin in your life. Confess it and repent and give it to the Lord. Ask Him not for riches or perfect health in the upcoming year, but for spiritual blessings to abound. Ask Him for wisdom, for love, for grace, for humility and for a serving heart. Let’s pray over 2016 that it will be a year of great rejoicing in the Lord and revival. Amen!


A Collection of Closed Doors – What Now?

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“When God closes a door, He opens a window.”

I’ve heard this catch phrase, and others like it, all my life. Some young people brought up in Christian homes probably think it’s a scripture from the Bible, though it’s not. It’s just a phrase Christians oftentimes use to explain and accept that a direction they were going is no longer a possibility and therefore God must have something better in mind. He closes a door. He opens another….or a window?

Why the window, by the way? Is it to indicate that the second option is more difficult? Requires more effort? Perhaps it’s that the jump down from the window will require a leap of faith? Regardless, I did a couple of quick searches to identify the origins of this phrase.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look 
so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we 
do not see the one which has opened for us.” Alexander Graham Bell

Seems to be wise words from Mr. Bell there, although he indicates that the doors themselves are opening and closing themselves rather than being opened and closed by someone or something. I believe whole-heartedly that God opens and closes “door”, opportunities, etc. I also believe that doors are opened and closed by our choices, and not just ours personally but the choices of mankind. I’m not saying that God isn’t sovereign. He certainly is, and nothing happens that doesn’t cross his “desk” so to say for approval or veto. God allows us to make choices and therefore some of those choices are going to be us pushing open doors that should be closed and cementing closed windows that could be the right way out. It’s called free will.

God does close and open doors though, and He does guide us in the way He wants us to go. Sometimes in life it seems like all we have is closed doors. Being one who has been through many times of trouble and difficult periods of time, there have been occasions when I’ve felt the tug of my heart to lose hope that I’ll ever have an open door. Closed doors. Slammed shut doors. Locked down and boarded doors. I’ve looked down a hallway of endless possibilities and all my eye can see is closed doors.

You know, it can feel that way sometimes. We have the desires of our hearts. We want to happily married. We want to have healthy children. We want to serve in ministry. We want to achieve success in one way or another. We want to provide for our children well. We want these opened doors. It’s so very hard when all of the doors, or some of the most important to you, seem to be closed forever. Heartache. Loss. Hopelessness. These can set in. We can’t take our eyes off of them. We sit there tapping at the closed door until our hands are sore and our hearts broken.

Maybe Mr. Bell was right? It might not be scripture, but wisdom all the same. If we focus too long and hard on the closed door that we fail to see the opened door. We miss it. We also forget to be thankful for the opened doors. We can’t see beyond the closed door.

You know, there was a time I thought that God has closed the door for me to have children naturally. I had suffered infertility for four years. I had been pounding away at that door, heartbroken it wasn’t opening. Finally I moved further down the hallway and started exploring other doors and options. I was about to knock on another door when suddenly, by the hand of God, the door that I had pounded on for years swung wide open. My precious little girl was waiting on the other side…waiting for the right time. God’s timing. He opened the door when everything was perfectly in place.

It may seem like all you have is a collection of closed doors, but God’s got a plan. If we trust Him, He will open the right doors at the right time in the right order and with a glorious outcome. The problem is, we need to keep our eyes on Him and what He’s doing instead of gluing them to one closed door. We need to put the sledgehammer away and stop trying to open the doors in our flesh when we know it isn’t of God. We need to walk by faith and hope, expecting God to do what He does so perfectly. Bring your requests to Him and He will open and close the doors by His perfect knowledge and timing.

“And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” Luke 11:9




A Letter of Hope to Celebrities

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Dear celebrities, stars, actors, athletes and musicians. To anyone who is in the spotlight often and has a name that draws a crowd. To the rich and powerful, the famous and adored, on the screen, camera and stage. This message is for you. I pray, as I write this, that somehow these words from this unknown blogger/mother/humble music teacher will find their way to you and bless and encourage you and give you hope.

I confess that much of my life I have believed a lie. You see I grew up in humble surroundings. We weren’t in poverty, by any means, but also never quite had enough to pay the bills comfortably. I vowed to become a doctor or lawyer and to have bank accounts with endless possibilities. I didn’t. I became a private music teacher – a job that I find most fulfilling and rewarding. In other words, I may not have a BMW or be able to flit off to Europe whenever the mood takes me, but I do have the joy and honor of staying home to raise my precious daughter, as well as investing in the enriching of the lives of the many wonderful children I work with. I get to teach them to love music, to express themselves through perfectly-appointed notes, and to see the pride in their eyes when they make music. At the same point, we continue to live modestly, without much extra than the basic needs being met, and grateful for those provisions.

Why am I sharing this? We were talking about a certain lie. There is a lie that is believed by many, including this writer for a time, that money, riches and fame brings happiness and joy. We see the materialism of a lifestyle we can’t personally possess and imagine how good it would feel to be famous, adored and, most of all, have all of the fine pleasures that money can buy. We see the beautiful clothes, cars, mansions and jewelry. On the screen, celebrities seem so happy and care-free. We are buying into an illusion that having all of these “things” will make us as happy as it seems to make you. Alas, it’s an illusion.

While materialism can bring temporary pangs of fulfillment and excitement, these are all passing experiences. While the sparkling smiles of beautiful people on the red carpet seem so alluring, for many celebrities, it is nothing more than a continuing act. Many are merely putting on a show. How do we know? We know because we see the news reports and the chaos and pain that so many celebrities are dealing with in their real lives.

A few days ago we lost the beloved Robin Williams. His suicide hit me hard. I was just so very sad to know he was gone and that he was in so much pain that he chose to take his life. Depression. He was adored by millions of fans, loved by his family and every person who ever knew him, and had all of the material “things” that we think makes people happy, but in the end it wasn’t enough. It didn’t satisfy. I think of all of the stars who have died due to drug overdoses, or who spend so much time in rehab. I recall the young celebrities and singers who rise to fame quickly and end up burning out. They start out so fresh and innocent, but they spiral out of control. We hear of rapid divorces, heartbreak, loss, suicide, addiction and criminal activity and we wonder “why”? Why would these people – who seem to have everything the world calls good and fulfilling – why would they do this to themselves? Why aren’t they just happy?

Now, I know many of you celebrities are happy and content and not struggling with these problems. By no means would I want to overgeneralize. Many of you have wonderful marriages, a satisfying life, health, etc. However, there are many of you who, just like us, are struggling day by day with the demons in your life. And perhaps it is because of the “lie” that you suffer more. Perhaps no one sees your pain because they are blinded by the flash of the cameras and the sparkling of the jewelry. Maybe you are afraid to open up about your hurt because you want us to see the magazine-cover version of you and you’re afraid we’ll be disappointed if we see the truth. It could be that, in believing this lie, we have assumed you must be happy and healthy, and therefore not offered you the compassion, concern and support you’ve desperately needed. Sometimes the loneliest people in the world are those who are “known” by everyone but really known by no one.

To those celebrities who are suffering, and even to those who are not, I want to encourage you. You may have plenty of money, material things, fame, popularity and power, but what you really need is hope. True hope isn’t found in there. True, lasting joy isn’t acquired with money or fame. Those things will let you down. They will fade away. They will leave you empty. True hope is found only… Jesus Christ.

That’s right. Jesus Christ. I’m not talking about religion or rules or man’s tradition. I’m talking about Jesus. Right now there are Christians being martyred and persecuted around the world, who have no riches and barely enough to eat, who are more satisfied and fulfilled and overflowing with joy and hope than most of the uber-wealthy living in the mansions in Beverly Hills. Why? Jesus! They have Jesus. They Him and are known by Him. It’s not religion…it’s freedom. Freedom from the sin, the evil and the self-centeredness that leaves people feeling so empty, depressed and self-loathing in the end.

Please don’t dismiss this as just another religious diatribe by some wack job. If you can see past the lie and let go for a minute of whatever beefs you have with the concept of “religion”, you may feel the subtle tugging at your heart. Are you hurting? Are you struggling to find hope? You have everything that money can buy and are adored by millions and yet you are hard-pressed to find a reason to get out of bed everyday? The answer is simple….Jesus.

I am here to give you a message of hope. Jesus is hope. Jesus is love. He can bring you complete and total healing, fulfillment and purpose. Let go of pre-conceived notions about what religion means and just seek Jesus. Find a Bible and read through the book of John. Call a Christian friend. Write me…I’d be happy to talk to you in complete confidence about Jesus and how He can bring meaning to your life that you never imagined.

I’m praying that this letter somehow reaches whomever it needs to and anticipating God doing great things. You know, in the end, nothing else matters but Jesus. Fame, fortune, materialism….it’s all fleeting. It’s all temporary. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that Jesus is real, He’s the Son of God, He died to give you new life and free you from the chains of sin and death, and He is calling out to you now. Answer Him.

****Please feel free to contact me at chelsea_mccafferty @ (without the spaces). Every email I receive it kept completely confidential. I would just like to encourage you and answer any questions you may have. God bless!
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Robin Williams and a Broken-Hearted World

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In my lifetime, there have been very few celebrities whose passing from this life have hit me as hard as the loss of Robin Williams. Today the social media outlets are flooded with the sad, tragic news of his death and it is very clear that the world is heartbroken. Me too.

There are reasons we feel his loss so deeply. So many of us have grown up watching the creative and complex characters he has brought to life for us. He has made everything from comedy to drama to suspense thrillers. He has made us laugh and cry and laugh through our tears. He has made us dream big and care deeply. Both he, and his many characters, will live on forever in our hearts and our memories.

There are a few thoughts that have been floating around in my head and tugging at my heart since the news broke of Robin William’s passing. His death has reminded me that money can’t buy happiness or peace. There are hurts and depression that are not soothed by material things. Depression is just terrible, and it is no respecter of persons. When we look at the life of Robin Williams, at the joy and laughter and entertainment he brought to us all, it is hard for us to comprehend how much pain he must have been experiencing. I think we are all so sad, on some level, because we wished the love of his fans and friends had been enough, but it wasn’t.

As I continue to ponder these sad events, and the hurting of mankind, I am reminded of some very relevant scriptures that I find give us hope and healing. Praying that anyone who is suffering, mourning, hurting or depressed will read these words and find hope and comfort. Jesus loves us, whether or not we always feel that way, and in Him there is a hope we can’t find anywhere else.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”” Matthew 11:28-30

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ” Isaiah 41:10

“Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God.” Psalm 43:5

“Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. ” Romans 5:1-5


*** If you are suffering from depression and deep hurt, please talk to someone. Talk to someone you can trust. Don’t suffer alone. Jesus said He is near the brokenhearted. He has hope to give you and wants to minister to your heart. He wants His people to serve you and love you and help you. Seek out people who love Jesus and ask for help. I say this because I know that pain. I’ve been there. I’ve been diagnosed and medicated. I had friends to help me. Now, in Christ, I have found healing. Though we will always go through trials and hurts and battles with depression, there is hope in Jesus Christ. I pray that you would run to Him and fall into His open arms. He’s waiting to help you.

If you need someone to talk to, please contact me. If I’m too far away to help you, I’ll find someone who can. Just don’t suffer alone, and please don’t give up. I care about you and Jesus loves you more than you can imagine. He has a way out. Praying for you.


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