Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

I Wish I Could Make Her a Sister

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This is going to be one of THOSE blogs. One of those really hard to write ones. One that really exposes the heart of an issue. Being real isn’t always easy, but in doing so we are often able to minister to and relate with others. It brings a sense of community and a feeling of understanding. It promotes compassion and gives others some insight into the trials of others which helps us to love them, support them and pray for them. So this is a REAL blog about REAL issues of life and the heart.

Tonight’s topic is especially hard though. You see, if you’ve never suffered through the pain and frustrations of infertility, you probably haven’t considered the many ways in which it affects a woman, a marriage or a family. There are so many emotions, trials and challenges. I have been experiencing one lately, as I deal with secondary infertility. (For those who don’t know, secondary infertility describes a woman who has been able to have a child but hasn’t been able to conceive or bring to term and deliver more children.)

My daughter is such a beautiful gift from God. She is five years old now and I can barely stand to see her grow up so quickly. I try to cherish every moment and every experience with her. She makes my life so special. The Lord was good to us in giving us this precious little girl, and I thank Him for her daily. I accept that she may be the only child He will give us, and that His plan is perfect, though we certainly have prayed for another miracle baby over the past five years.

While I am able to accept His will, it’s not to say it is without the occasional tear or heartbreak. A few nights ago I experienced a new kind of pain and it was for my daughter. She was playing with her little cousin and his big sister at Grammy’s house. At some point my daughter heard her big cousin referring to herself as the little one’s sister, so my daughter started to profess that she too was his sister. She was gently reminded that she isn’t the sister but rather the cousin and my brother (her uncle) went on to explain to her how special a cousin is. Still, despite their efforts to encourage her, she was heartbroken. She wasn’t a sister.

When they told me about this happening (I was at a wedding at the time), I was so sad for her. You see, we are part of a family and church family that places great importance on family and most of the families have been blessed with multiple children. In fact, many of our friends have very large families. We watch as sisters and brothers share sweet moments, hold brand new siblings, teach each other and love on one another. It’s precious and I’m so happy for those families. At the same time, I can’t help but ache for my daughter, who wants so badly to experience those moments, but can’t.

Sadness isn’t the only emotion for me. Whether or not it’s how I should feel, I’m often filled with guilt. I sometimes blame myself for not being able to make my daughter a sister. I would so love to give her that experience someday, and it’s my prayer that this will happen, but for now I’m left feeling inadequate and like a failure for not being able to make my little girl someone’s big sister. It’s a hard feeling to describe, but I’m sure other’s who have experienced similar circumstances will understand all too well.

I know that, just as I have to accept that I may never be able to mother another child, my daughter will have to accept that being someone’s sister in the traditional sense may not be God’s plan. What I will strive to remind her and assure her is that in the family of Jesus, she is a sister to many of God’s children. She will have friends who are like sisters. She will have big and little sisters in the Lord. While it may not be exactly the same, with Christ’s help it’ll be enough.

Perhaps our dreams of adopting will someday come to fruition and we’ll be able to give her siblings, but for now we will teach our daughter that God is the opener and closer of wombs. He is the one who knits families together, whether naturally or by adoption. He will give her plenty of opportunity to love others and to be loved. I pray now for my little girl’s heart, that she will have understanding in this and, even at this young age, trust the Lord. I pray also for this mommy’s heart, that I would feel the hurt when it’s needed but then move on to joy and contentment. I pray that my heart would see the opportunities all around me to use my mother’s heart to minister to others. I continue to thank God that I got the tremendous privilege of experiencing life forming and growing within me, and that I get to gaze upon my daughter’s beautiful face every day. Thank You Jesus!

Thank you readers for being willing to go deep and real with me here in this blog. If what I share touches your heart, I pray you will share the blog with your friends and stick with me here. If you have never suffered from infertility, I pray you will be able to give understanding and compassion to friends and loved ones who have or do now. I pray that, as you look upon the faces of your children, you will remember to pray for those women who are aching for children they cannot have even now. Pray for them and thank the Lord again for His blessings.

“And He (God) will make the barren woman to keep house and to be the joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord!” Psalm 113:9

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A Study on Eldership

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The following is a study I’ve done on the purpose, qualifications and callings of an elder in the church family. This has been something on my mind and heart for a long time. It’s important that we know that being an elder isn’t just a title to be had in the church. Rather it is a ministry calling that comes with responsibilities. It is important that elders be chosen based on their qualifications and also on their ability to commit to the ministry calling.

Appointing Elders

This is why I left you in Crete, so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you—” Titus 1:5

Paul writes to Titus about the need to appoint elders in every town as directed. He pre-clarifies that this is to be done in order to “put what remained into order”. This is an ordering of the church family. One can imagine that the New Testament church was chaotic at times, with threats of persecution and execution from all of the political and military leaders. There was fear. There were false doctrines. We know there were false prophets coming in and leading some in the church astray, which Paul speaks about a little later in the chapter. In this verse, Paul introduces the need for elders, gives the qualifications of an elder and then goes on to show an example of why elders are so important.

What is an Elder?

Titus 1:7 refers to elders as “overseers”. Elders are spiritual leaders and overseers in the church. They serve in a variety of ways; as pastors, teachers, counselors and ministry supervisors. Elders are committed to the Lord’s work. It is an office and a position of authority in the church. It is a big responsibility and merely a title to be claimed.

And when they had appointed elders for them in every church, with prayer and fasting they committed them to the Lord in whom they had believed.” Acts 14:23

The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task.” 1 Timothy 3:1

That word “task” is the Greek word “ergon” which refers to employment, work and a hard job. It is a job that one is undertaking. It is an act, deed or a thing done. It is the opposite of “less work” and indicates a greater degree of responsibility. In other words, the job of an elder is active. It is not a passive role. It is active. It is a time consuming undertaking. Therefore an elder should be a man who is ready, willing and has time to fulfill the office.

If we elect someone as mayor of the town, that person is going to have a lot of work ahead of him/her. There are going to be long meetings, sleepless nights, piles of paperwork, press reports, etc. The mayor oversees the town. The mayor takes care of big and small issues that affect the community. It’s hard work. The office of an elder is hard and time-consuming as well….or at least it should be.

Qualifications of an Elder

“The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil.” 1 Timothy 3:1-7

Let’s look at these qualifications as a list:

  • Above reproach – He strives to live a life that glorifies God so much so that no one could accuse him of wrong-doing.
  • Husband of one wife – Whether or not this means an elder must have a wife is debatable. We know that he must not have multiple wives. One could also take this as meaning an elder must have a wife and this makes sense. We know that Adam needed a helper in the Garden. When God appoints a man to eldership, it is a big responsibility. Perhaps God is saying that men with such a large job in the church need a helper too.
  • Sober-minded. Temperate. Thoughtful and grounded in the word, this man thinks clearly and shows wisdom in his words and actions.
  • Self-controlled – He is self-disciplined and does not fly off the handle.
  • Respectable – He is well put-together, modest and dignified. He is well thought-of by those around him.
  • Hospitable – An elder and his wife should be given to hospitality. They should be known to welcome people into their home often.
  • Able to Teach – An elder should have the gift and calling of a teacher.
  • Not a Drunkard – An elder must not be addicted to or prone to drunkenness. He must be temperate.
  • Not Violent but Gentle – Doesn’t crave violence or get in fights with people often. He doesn’t look for trouble with others. He is gentle.
  • Not Quarrelsome – An elder should not be in constant quarrels and fights with others. He does not stir up strife and cause problems. He is a peacemaker not a troublemaker.
  • Not a Lover of Money – He is not money-hungry or focused on acquiring earthly, material wealth. He does not boast in his riches or what he has attained, but seeks the Lord first and always.
  • Manage His Household Well – An elder must have his home in order. That covers his marriage and his children. He must have children who have been taught to submit and obey. He must love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. He must have his home in order and his obligations met.
  • Must Not be a Recent Convert – A new believer should never be appointed as an elder. It is dangerous to bring someone up into leadership before he is ready. God says that a recent convert who is made elder too soon may struggle with pride and fall into the condemnation of the devil.
  • Well Thought-Of by Others – An elder should be someone that other people generally like. He should be one who others look up to and respect spiritually.

 

Responsibilities of an Elder

There is no conclusive list of the responsibilities because the truth is an elder has to basically do whatever it takes to minister to the body for which he is responsible. Just like a parent takes care of the many needs of his or her child, an elder is charged with taking care of the Christians that God entrusts to their care. This could fall under a variety of tasks, ministries and works. Here are some of the responsibilities an elder must be prepared to do to fulfill the office:

  • Love the body. “Since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently with a pure heart…” 1 Peter 1:22
  • Pray for the body. “Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.” James 5:14
  • Stand on and Teach the Word. “He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.” Titus 1:9
  • Watch over the Souls of the Body. “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.” Hebrews 13:17
  • Oversee the Church. “Shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight, not under compulsion, but willingly, as God would have you; not for shameful gain, but eagerly…” 1 Peter 5:2
  • Be a Good Example – “Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness… Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.” Titus 2:2, 7-8
  • Disciple – “When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Feed my lambs.” He said to him a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.” He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, “Do you love me?” and he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep.” John 21:15-17
  • Invest Time in Fellowship – “And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers.” Acts 2:42

 

These are only a few of the responsibilities of an elder in the church. What became overwhelmingly clear to me as I studied this topic was how important it is for elders to be connected with the people in the church. Being an elder is not just a title you give men who love the Lord and are well-versed in scripture. The office of elder requires work, time, commitment and a passion to love and care for the body of Christ. It is a very hard job. A man who loves the Lord but doesn’t have time to fulfill the calling of an elder shouldn’t commit to taking on the job. Just like any other commitment we make, we should be sure we have the time to meet the responsibilities that come with the position.

Not only must an elder meet the qualifications listed, but he must devote time to fellowship and getting to know the people who are supposed to be entrusted in his care. How can he oversee or shepherd the body if he has no idea who the people are, what they have going on in their lives and where they need help? How can an elder minister to people if they never spend time with them? How will young men and women grow in the Lord if they are not discipled? If the elders aren’t going to do it, then who is?

Eldership is not just a title, and it’s also not a position of tyrannical rule. Elders should not see themselves as the boss who calls the shots, but rather a servant of the most High God (the actual Head of the Church). An elder is feeding and tending to the sheep of God with love, gentleness, compassion and sound doctrine. He does not see himself as higher, more spiritual or better than any other brother or sister. He is a humble servant. An elder is not just a man who helps make decisions on a board. He is someone who is invested in the people of the body. He makes an effort to know them, minister to them and sacrifices for them when need be

There is one big difference between the majority of American churches and those church plants out on foreign mission fields around the world. Good missions churches know the importance of relationship, discipleship and community in bringing others to Christ and raising them up to spiritual maturity. It’s not about big outreaches. It’s not all accomplished on Sunday mornings for an hour or so of teaching. Missionaries know that their life is to be about making disciples, not converts. They open their homes and hearts to people without bias or judgment. They teach this way of life to their children, because when a person is called to a ministry, the whole family is called. These church planters understand that investing in people is the key to evangelism and discipleship of God’s people. They bring them in, show them Jesus’ salvation, train them up and send them out.

Yet the American church (the majority) is missing some of these important key elements. We seem to think it’s okay for us to go to church Sunday mornings, hear a good message, give a few hugs and then go about our own lives for the rest of the week. We seem to the think that it’s all about building our own little kingdoms….my home, my family, my church. We are missing so much. There needs to be a change in the way we “do” church and the church family, and it needs to start from the leadership and trickle down. We need to see our pastors and elders investing in the individuals, giving up their time and making people more of a priority. We need real discipleship, where older men meet with and train up younger men, preparing them for the next generation of ministry.

I know how busy life can get. As I type this, I’ve got a million chores on my list calling out for me. Still, I have come to realize that my life is not my own. My family is not mine but God’s. My home belongs to the Lord. I am no expert and I’m certainly no authority, but the God of the Bible is, and His Word shows us that elders have a big responsibility. They are called to a large work, and it takes time and commitment and sacrifice. If a man is not able to sacrifice the time, then maybe he is not called to be an elder at this time in his life. Praying for elders everywhere to be encouraged and to be filled with eagerness to serve and minister to God’s people.

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A Gentle Tongue

“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4

I was not born with a gentle tongue. I think that before I could even form words I was probably complaining, whining, criticizing, debating and making large declarations. I have always been somewhat strong-willed and opinionated. I admit it, though I’m not proud of my disposition. It is most certainly my nature to speak harshly, confidently, arrogantly and sometimes without consideration for how my words may be received.

That being confessed, I share with great joy that God has and is always working on me to mold me into the kind of woman He wants me to be. He is taking my stubborn tongue and teaching it to be gentle so that my words are a blessing to my family, friends and the lost instead of being a loud and brassy, clamorous noise. This education in speaking with gentleness does not come easy for me and so I must be walking in the Spirit to be able to do what my hearts wants. As with so many struggles, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

In Proverbs 15:4 there, the word for “gentle” is the Hebrew word “marpe'” and it’s definition may surprise you. It surprised me as I looked into it. The word means, “gentle, soothing, profitable, able to cure, healing and sound of mind.” In other words, it’s not just the tone of the voice that is used. Gentle does not equal quiet. It’s the words that are spoken that matter the most. The words we speak with the tongue should be soothing, healing words. They should minister to and edify those around us. They should bring comfort, joy, peace and be filled with love. Isn’t that beautiful?

“A healing, soothing tongue is a tree of life…”.

Words are powerful indeed. Our tongues can bring life and health and goodness. With wisdom and spiritual maturity we can truly allow God to use our tongues to minister to His children and to share the gospel with the lost. We can use our words to build up our husbands and our children. We can use our tongues to teach our kids the ways of the Lord and to encourage those younger than us in the faith to grow in the Lord. The tongue can be a tree of life, powerful and edifying, or it can be used to break the spirit with perverseness.

The Hebrew word for “perverseness” is “celeph” which means, “crookedness, perverseness, crooked dealing, and perversion.” When we use our tongue for evil, we can literally crush the spirit. Another way to consider this is that, when we use the members of our body (including the tongue) to do/say evil, we absolutely quench the Spirit of God within us. Our crookedness and perversion keeps us from being able to minister to our families and friends or to serve God as we desire to do.

So what is crookedness or perversion of the tongue? A good indication is found in the scriptures surrounding this one in Proverbs 15 and in other verses throughout scripture. Here are some of the descriptions God uses in regards to the tongue/words of the crooked.

“…a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

“…the mouths of fools pour out folly.” Proverbs 15:2

“The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools.” Proverbs 15:7

“….the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.” Proverbs 15:28

“May the Lord cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that makes great boasts…” Psalm 12:3

“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.” Psalm 34:13

“Your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit.” Psalm 52:2

These are just a few verses. There are many, many more. Lying, gossip, speaking disrespectfully to your husband, stirring up wrath and anger, inciting division, breaking people down, etc. are all ways that we use our tongue for perverseness rather than for edification. We want our words to bring life, not misery. We want to speak encouragement, not judgement. We want everything we say to be filled with love and wisdom and kindness.

I thank the Lord abundantly that He continues to chip away at the areas of my life where I still struggle with sin, and this is one of those areas. I know my weakness to speak with anything but gentleness and blessing. I submit my heart and my tongue to the Lord Jesus Christ and ask Him to perfect His love in me and to make me an instrument of blessing, encouragement and edification, within my home and outside as well. I thank Him for bringing me this far and thank Him for what He’s yet to do. Hallelujah!

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Finding Mercy and Grace in Times of Need

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16

Confession time…I’m a a worrier. I tend to struggle with anxiety, stress, worry and even panic from time to time. When times get tough, this woman right here turns to mush. I don’t really have a tough bone in my body. The good news is I don’t need to be strong, independent or tough when the attacks of the enemy and the darkness of this life get me down. I can approach that glorious throne of grace with boldness and find the only mercy that truly ministers to me.

What a blessing is the mercy of the Lord! What a treasure is His peace!

I find very interesting that the verse above says we can enter the throne of grace in times of need to receive this ministering. I think we can all agree that coming to the throne of the Lord Jesus Christ is such an amazing and awesome privilege. Notice, however, that the scripture specifies we come in time of need. Isn’t it so very true that the times we recognize our need for Jesus the clearest are those times when we are suffering or facing diverse trials? The sufferings of this world make our hearts cry out for Jesus even more. The pain of sin, sickness and death remind us how much we need Jesus.

I love the song, “Lord I Need You” by Matt Maher.

“Lord, I need You, Oh I need You. Every hour I need You! My one defense. My righteousness. Oh God how I need you!”

I don’t know about you but I need God every hour of every day. This world is full of hard choices, temptation, struggles, pain and suffering….without the Lord we are going to fail and fall hard. I’ve been there. I know. When I begin to lose heart, and the world around me starts to look like it’s going to consume me, I remember the throne of Grace. I remember that God calls me there so that I can lay my needs, my fears, my worries and my pain at the feet of the One who conquered every evil thing with His death and resurrection.

I come boldly to the throne of grace. I confess. I repent. I surrender. I am forgiven. I am freed.

What I love so much about the Lord is His compassion and understanding. Sometimes when we go to friends and family, even brothers and sisters in the Lord, we come with our weakness and receive disappointment, judgement, disregard and piety. Yet when we come to the throne of grace, our Lord offers us mercy, love, forgiveness and compassion.

“For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted” Hebrews 2:18
 
We have a High Priest who understands our suffering, our temptation, our trials and our pain. He has suffered the same and worse, yet without sin. He overcame and defeated sin, and He is so very able to help us in our weakness. He does not despise us for it, but covers us in His perfection. He clothes us in His righteousness. He welcomes us into His throne room with love and mercy. The very thought of it moves me to tears.
 
Praise the Lord who loves us in our weakness. May we run to Him and remain in Him every moment of every hour of every day until He returns or calls us home. Amen?
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Infertility – My Story

When I got married, I had no idea I would struggle to conceive. I figured I would try for a few months and be able to have a baby without a long delay. I did not foresee the struggle and pain that the next four years would bring, nor anticipate the amazing work of the Lord through this trial in my life. I share this story now to bring hope, encouragement and comfort to my sisters who have experienced, or are even now experiencing the pain of infertility.

My husband and I had no plans of waiting to have a child when we were married. We wanted to get a family started right away. I had dreamed of a large family with five plus kids. We never prevented pregnancy in any way. Three months passed and nothing. I wasn’t too concerned, reading online that it took healthy when up to a year to conceive at times. We were living in Scotland at the time and I figured the stress of moving to a new country may be putting my body on hold.

As time went on, I struggled with watching friend after friend conceive and deliver precious babies, while for me it wasn’t happening. My husband and I prayed and tried to leave our concerns in the hands of the Lord. As a woman I found the struggle to be particular painful because there were so many shades of emotion. I struggled with impatience, sadness, longing, jealousy….I confess these are not attractive or righteous attitudes. I prayed. Released the pain to God. After a time it would return like a haunting spirit.

For years the pain and fear built upon itself until the point came when I realized the seriousness of what was going on. A dear friend of mine announced she was pregnant with her second child. I had been trying to conceive since before she was pregnant with the first. Suddenly I was no longer a healthy woman being impatient….I was a woman struggling with infertility. I cried more tears during that time than at any other time in my life. I asked God why He had excluded me from the blessing of being a mother when it was all that I wanted. I begged Him for my womb to be open. I cried out in anger when His answer wasn’t an immediate “yes”.

During this time I found it very difficult to be around my pregnant friends. I could hardly handle a baby shower. I grew bitter and was so emotionally tender. I was highly affected by every flippant comment made by people telling me I should have a baby or asking me why we were waiting. We moved back to the US and I found myself at a church that was highly “fertile” ground, as it were. Women were having babies nearly every month and yet I sat by, an incomplete and defective woman in my own estimation. I felt that people looked down on me, that they assumed I was infertile because of my own failure or sin, and that they treated me like a child because I couldn’t to conceive. Some of this was the wayward imaginations of my own mind, and some of it had some merit, I will say.

I hit rock bottom and came to the point when I had to really give it all over to the Lord to be able to function. He was faithful to take my burden. While I still struggled with the pain, God went through it with me and gave me comfort.

Then, four years into my infertility….

I was at a woman’s Wednesday night Bible study and we came across a verse Psalm 113:9. “He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the LORD!” The verse, meant to encourage, broke my heart. I wept to my sisters and allowed them to minister to me. Then at church on Sunday, my pastor read the same Psalm again. I was surprised to hear it again and filled with emotion. Tuesday morning I found out I was pregnant.

The realization of what God had done hit me full force. I knew there was no coincidence. He had given me that verse and confirmed it to prove that it was Him and Him alone who opened my womb. He is the opener and closer of wombs and the only Creator of life! My first feelings weren’t as much of joy as they were of fear. Cramping had led me to the pregnancy test in the first place, so I feared I was miscarrying. Praise the Lord that it wasn’t so and I my daughter, Tabitha, was born a little over 7 months later.

If you struggle with infertility and are reading this, the victory at the end of my story may cause you the same pain that I experienced at hearing of the pregnancies of friends. I’m sorry for this and pray that you will be comforted as I was. My prayer in sharing it is that it will bring you hope and comfort. You are not defective or unworthy of being a mother. God has reasons above our understanding for why He gives children to some and withholds from others. I did nothing to earn my daughter. God had a plan and a time.

Since my daughter’s birth I have again been unable to conceive, and it has been over four years. Again, my husband and I have not tried to prevent pregnancy, so I would now be considered as having secondary infertility. Of course, these words are just terms to define your current state. God is as much in control now as He was when He gave me my daughter. He could give me another child, or He could say no. While I would love to have more children, I believe wholeheartedly that God’s purpose and plan is what’s best. Perhaps He will allow my husband and I to adopt? We are open to His leading.

I wrap this testimony up by sharing three encouragements:

1. God is sovereign and He is the one who opens and closes wombs. Our hope is in the Lord. Just like Hannah petitioning the Lord for a child, we cry out to Him and receive from Him what He wills. We must trust Him and we need to allow His comfort to minister to us and bring us peace and contentment.

2. If you are struggling with infertility, please know that you are not defective or incomplete as a woman. You are complete in Christ. In Christ all fullness dwells and you are in Christ my sister. You lack nothing. God may be allowing you to go through this trial for a purpose that is far beyond what we can see or imagine. I pray fervently that the Lord will open your womb if it be His will. I pray even more so that, no matter what He chooses to do, that you would receive a flood of comfort from the Throne of Grace.

3. If you have a friend who is barren, I pray that you will seek to understand and be sensitive to what a painful struggle she is likely to be going through. Guard her heart by being cautious of your words. Don’t make light of it or joke. I guarantee that, while she may smile on the outside, she is weeping on the inside. Pray for her. Remember her.

For You formed my inward parts; You knitted me together in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:13

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