Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

Part 9 – Love Thinks No Evil, The Loving Homekeeper Series

“….Love thinks no evil.” 1 Corinthians 13:5

What does it mean to think evil? In this world we temporarily dwell in we are surrounded by evil. It’s on the television, in the newspapers and magazines, in the streets—everywhere. It’s so easy for us to get desensitized to what is evil because we see a world full of people accepting and even glorying in evil. So when God says that love doesn’t think evil, what does He mean and how can it be accomplished?

Let’s get back to the language. The Greek word for “think” is “logizomai“, and it can be translated to: “reckon, count, compute, calculate, to take into account, to number among, to consider, weigh, meditate on, to determine, purpose, to decide.” So this word is more about how we weigh something up in our minds. What do I determine about this person or issue? What is their substance? How have I judged or calculated their motives to be? It is actually less about what the subject actually is and more about how we’ve labeled it.

Now the word for “evil” is the Greek word “kakos” and means “of a bad nature, of a mode of thinking, feeling and acting base, wrong, wicked, troublesome, injurious, pernicious, destructive, and baneful.”

What’s fascinating about taking this phrase apart is that by understanding the text we get a better idea about the point God is making here. You see it’s not about whether or not a person is evil or has a bad nature. It’s not about whether or not they truly are being troublesome or wicked or if they secretly despise you. It’s not really about them at all. When God said “love thinks no evil”, it’s about me. It’s about how I view people and how I love them. It’s about not being cynical and looking for the worst in people. It’s about not labeling someone as evil, wicked, troublesome or destructive, especially when I don’t know that it’s true.

I think about a juror in a court room. They are presented the facts and are told to make a judgement based on those facts determining whether or not the defendant is guilty. They may be looking at a pile of evidence but it all comes down to how concrete they determine that evidence to be. God is reminding us here that we aren’t the judge and we aren’t in a courtroom. We are supposed to be loving people, not determining how wicked they are or labeling them as evil. Now, there may be evil in their lives. They may be guilty of all of the bad things you suspect. They may be out to get you or they may really be giving you dirty looks behind your back. That’s not the point. The point is how are you going to think on that person. You can choose to think no evil by taking those thoughts captive. You can choose to love people, whether or not they love you. If we really want to be effective in leading others to Christ, we need to show them this kind of love.

I think about a time when a young man came to our old church for a while. The church was something of a legalistic church, and the people weren’t very graceful to say the least. Regardless, I remember this young man entered the church and he was wearing torn up, un-matching clothes, dog chains and a bright green mohawk. He had several tattoos and piercings. The young man attended the church for a while off and on. I’ll never forget when one of the ladies from the church (in her sunday best looking prim and proper) walked up the young man and said she had to confess to him that she had secretly been judging him by the way he looked ever since he started attending.

For one thing, I couldn’t believe this woman’s discernment that the best way to deal with HER inward sin was to confess it to the person who didn’t even know how much she had been despising him. She unburdened herself at his expense when she could have simply confessed and repented to the Lord and spared him the embarrassment. Still, this woman’s heart was to think evil. She had judged him. She had labeled him. She had determined he was wicked and evil. And even when she did confess of this sin, her unloving attitude had driven the young man away from God and not to Him. How sad. Let us not be this kind of person. Let us love people and think no evil.

God says we can take every thought captive that goes against His Word. He also says in Philippians 4 that we are to think on what is true and of good report. We aren’t to go passing judgements or labeling or determining the heart of another person. We aren’t called to do that. We are called to love. Love.

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Prudent Wife

“House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.” Proverbs 19:14

The word “prudent” is the Hebrew word “sakal”, which means “to have understanding, comprehension, to full grasp something, to give insight and to cause to prosper.” It’s an interesting word that can be translated in several ways, but the ultimate view here is that a woman who has understanding, wisdom and insight is a gift from God.

You may be thinking, “I wish my husband would read this!” Well, that’s not really the point here of this scripture. We certainly don’t want to bang our husbands over the head with our Bibles and teach them that they should be grateful for having such wise and prudent wives, now should we? What we, as wives, can take from this verse is that we should desire to be prudent, wise, understanding and insightful wives for our husbands, which the Lord says will bless them, as well as our children. So what is the source of this prudence and how can we achieve it?
“In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.” Proverbs 10:19

Here we learn a valuable “Do Not” in our quest to become prudent wives. The word “wise” in this proverb is the same as the word “prudent” above. Many wives think it is their duty to constantly give their input, lecture, seminar…whatever you want to call it…day by day to show their wisdom and prudence. Not so. He that refrains his lips is prudent, wise, insightful. In other words, a wise wife knows when to talk and when to bite her tongue. Amen?

“I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.” Psalm 101:2

Here the word “wisely” is again that same word for prudent. How will I show prudence? I don’t need to speak a million words (which can sound like nagging and a dripping faucet) to show that I am wise. I will show it in my home, in my day to day activities, in my perfect behavior. I will be an example in my home of understanding because a woman who understands fears the Lord and knows His great love and mercy, which empowers her to live according to His Word. In my home I will show prudence by serving my family, submitting to my husband, lovingly training my child/children, worshiping my Lord, praying, being hospitable, patient, kind and forgiving.

So remember sisters that actions speak louder than words. Stop talking about prudence and start living it out. I pray that someday I might be counted as a prudent wife and a gift from above to my family.

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