Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

About Chelsea

I’m Chelsea McCafferty and this is my personal blog.  This blog is a place for Christian wives who want to be encouraged in their number one ministry priority: ministering to their husbands and children. God has called us to be keepers of our homes. That doesn’t mean we can’t work outside the home as well, but rather is a ministry calling to put our family first. We are the home managers, keeping it running smoothly, making it warm and comfortable, and transforming it into a refuge of safety, joy and love. There is so much to it and it such a glorious and special calling to have. This blog is also a sister site to promote and talk about my new book, “Keeper of His Home”, the first edition of “The Keeper Series”. Thank you for your support and may the Lord continue to grow us as keepers of our homes, helpmeets to our husbands, and lovers of our children!

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Author Bio

I’m Chelsea McCafferty, and I’m so glad you’ve stopped by. Let me tell you a bit about myself. I live in a small town in Central California with my loving, Scottish husband William and my precious daughter Tabitha. I am a full-time wife, mother, home educator, music teacher, author, public speaker and, when time allows, an avid reader! I also struggle with a health condition called Chronic Lyme Disease and am undergoing treatment to hopefully be in remission someday soon.

I love encouraging women and have been called by the Lord to minister especially in the topic of marriage, though I speak on a variety of Biblical and marital topics as well. I have spoken and led worship at a variety of ladies’ events, locally and abroad. Looking forward to seeing where God will take this ministry He’s doing in our lives and ready for anything!

My Story

I’ve read hundreds of Christian marriage books. Perhaps you have too? One issue I always had when I would read one of these books is that, while the information and suggestions were all really sound and wise, I always wondered if the author could understand how difficult it was to come from a bad past, a difficult marriage or one that wasn’t based on the Word of God. So many Christian authors, Lord bless them, have never experienced the other side of marriage, or experienced the hurt that so many people are going through. That’s not to say their books aren’t filled with great wisdom, but it’s nice to be able to relate to someone when taking their advice.

I am a fairly young author (at least I’d like to believe I’m young still!) but I’ve seen much in my time of life, hardship and struggle. Having come from a home of divorce, abuse and adultery, I witnessed the worst that marriage could offer and felt the effects of it. I watched family members go through divorce, some multiple times, or to remain in loveless and abusive marriages. I experienced the pains of blended families that didn’t quite blend so well. I felt the heartbreak and betrayal that my mother experienced when my father left her for her secretary. I don’t mean to be dark or blunt here, but I want you to know that I’ve seen and experienced these things, which is probably why the Lord has given me a ministry of marriage. I know what a marriage without God can look like, and I now experience the healing power of a marriage that is centered on God’s Word.

I was raised in a small town. My mother was a Christian but my father was not. As I mentioned, he was an adulterer several times over and eventually left with my mother’s secretary, whom he married. While it took me eight years to be able to have any type of relationship with him, I’m blessed to say I was able to forgive him and reconcile before his death a few years back. My mother remarried once after my dad, but her husband was an abusive alcoholic and the marriage crumbled after five years or so.

As a young woman, I had grown to mistrust and dislike men. I didn’t want to marry and I vowed never to serve a man in any way. In college, however, as my relationship with the Lord blossomed, I began to seek His Word on marriage. I asked God to change my heart and to teach me about marriage His way. Praise the Lord, He did!

Just after graduating from Chapman University, I met a man on the internet on a Christian website. He was from Scotland and I lived in California. I was shocked when, after a month, he made plans to come and meet me. We hit it off and over the next year we “dated”, which really meant talking on the phone, emailing and the occasional visit back and forth. We got married and I moved to Scotland for the first two years of our marriage.

Living in Scotland was a wonderful experience, but it was something of a wake up call as to how little he and I truly knew about each other. I hadn’t realized how young he was in the Lord, and of course there was much about each other we got a crash course in. Cultural and familial differences were a factor. We were very different people with different interests and passions. There’s no doubt we were an odd fit, but we got some excellent discipleship and guidance, and our marriage has continued on to become one that is truly peaceful and joyful.

I can tell you honestly today that I know if not for this message that God has put on my heart that we would not be married today. I know I would have continued a cycle of divorce and would have ruined my marriage. God is so merciful! He has saved me, saved my marriage, blessed my daughter, and is now using us to share this message with others.

Why Marriage? Why You??

With the release of my book, “Keeper of His Home”, and the upcoming speaking engagements, I have been asked by several people to explain why I write and speak mostly about marriage. People have asked me why I feel called to this issue, especially in that I’ve only been married 8 years myself. Why is it a topic that is so important to me?

In the Introduction of my book I share my testimony which sheds a little bit of light on that subject. I come from a broken home of divorce myself. My mother was a Christian and my father was not. My father was an adulterer (frequently) and verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to my mother. Childhood was hard. I was sixteen when the divorce went through and my father married his mistress, raising her kids. I didn’t have a relationship with him for 8 years, and even then it was labored and awkward. I can happily share that, by the power of the Holy Spirit, I was able to forgive him in the end and tell him I loved him the day he passed away. Praise the Lord!

Why marriage? Well, I don’t honestly know. All I can say is that the Lord has put the burden of marriage heavily upon my heart. I look around and see marriages ending, marriages in trouble and families being torn apart. I see statistics that send a shiver down my spine. I see the faces of children being caught in the middle and it breaks my heart. God had a plan when He created marriage, and this wasn’t it folks. This wasn’t it. His Word gives us the answer of how to have His plan for marriage actuated in our lives.

Why me? Again, I don’t really know. To be honest, I’m not the most perfect candidate. If there were any misgivings, let me lay them on the table now. I don’t have a perfect marriage. In fact, I’d say my marriage has been a hard one from the start. My husband and I honestly barely knew each other when we got married and have both changed so much since then (for the good I think). If not for God’s Word, I don’t think we would have made it, but this message changed my heart. While we don’t have a perfect marriage, we have a happy home. We have peace, joy and Jesus! We have a beautiful daughter whom we love dearly. She has parents who love each other through God’s love and respect and honor one another according to His Word. Do we make mistakes? YES! We make mistakes but God’s grace is sufficient and each year we get better.

Proverbs 5:18-19

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”
 
God has called me to the ministry of marriage and I accept that calling, knowing I’m inadequate, ill-equipped and unqualified. Thank the Lord He uses the weak things of this world to confound the strong! If your women’s ministry would like me to come and share at one of your events, feel free to contact me. God bless you!
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11 responses to “About Chelsea

  1. ladylikeideas says:

    All the best on your book… must be very exciting! And on such a well-needed topic, too. 🙂

  2. A note of thanks for your “follow” at Home’s Cool!

    This all looks very intriguing and I look forward to learning much more! 🙂

  3. Um…where is your sign up widget?! 🙂

  4. peacefulwife says:

    Love this!!!! Thanks for sharing what God has done in your life! I know He will use your story to bless many wives, marriages and families. 🙂

  5. Just checking out your blog after meeting you on Etsy today. So glad you reached out to us as I’m so excited to learn more about your blog and your story!

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