Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

From Barren Woman to Joyful Mother – God’s Perfect Gift

on November 18, 2014

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After nearly four long years of trying to conceive a child, my mind had given up on the notion and my heart felt the pain that only a barren woman understands. Watching child after child be born to friends and family around me, I struggled to attend baby showers, visit newborns or even serve in Sunday School. I loved children, but the pain of knowing I might never have one of my own was sometimes too much. I’d cry out to the Heavenly Father in grief, anger and confusion. I loved Him, even when it hurt, and knew He was good, even when it felt like there was nothing good around me.

One Wednesday night I attended a ladies’ Bible study. Somehow we stumbled upon a verse in the Psalms that broke my heart. Psalm 113:9 says, “And He (God) will make the barren woman to keep house and to be the joyful mother of children; praise ye the Lord.” This verse, which should have been a pleasant and joyful verse, brought tears of longing. I cried and prayed with my sisters. They ministered to me.

The following Sunday morning at church, I went in for prayer time. My pastor would always read from the Psalms before prayer. As it were, he read out Psalm 113:9 again. I was surprised to hear it again, and I silently cried out to Jesus in my heart as we prayed. Little did I know that God was doing something amazing. He was working a miracle and I didn’t even know it. He wanted me to know that it was Him, the Giver of every good and perfect gift.

Two days later I found out I was expecting my precious daughter. Psalm 113:9 was a promise from the Lord to me and He confirmed it twice to show me without any possible doubt that it was Him and Him alone who gave life and opened wombs. I rejoice in the Lord for what He has done! My daughter was born healthy and has been loved every moment of her life. She is a delight. She brings my husband and I such overwhelming joy.

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At this time of year, we focus on the things we are most grateful for and give thanks for God’s blessings. When I consider all of the many blessings God has given throughout my life, I am truly filled with a spirit of wonder and awe. Life has not always been easy. There have been hardships and trials. There have been seasons of struggle and drought. Still, the Lord is faithful. He knew me in the deepest parts of my hearts and He knew that I needed this little girl. What a gracious and loving Father He is! He gave me what He knew my heart would cherish above all else….my darling girl.

I thank God for my daughter all year long, but as we meditate on God’s perfect gifts, I focus in on what He did for me five years ago in opening my womb and creating life. My daughter truly is a perfect gift from above and I just know that God is going to use her in amazing ways. I’m sure of it.

While God is the opener of wombs, He also closes them at times. I have not been able to conceive again since my daughter. I have my Christian friends who suffer with fertility struggles. I know that pain all too well. My sisters, if this is you, I pray that you will never lose hope or allow your joy to slip away. God has a perfect gift for you that He will reveal in the right time according to His perfect plans. He may not allow you to conceive, or He may do just that. Perhaps His gift will come in another form. Perhaps He will lead you to care for and love the orphans of the world. Maybe He will give you a special calling that will fulfill in ways you can’t even comprehend. God knows what you need and He wants to give that perfect gift to you in His time. I pray you wait upon the Lord, and never stop thanking Him, even when your heart is hurting.

May we ever thank the Lord for the great things He has and will do. To God, the Giver of all good and perfect Gods, be the praise and glory forever!

 

For more on Infertility, including resources for those who struggle with this, please visit Infertility Page.

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*** Chelsea McCafferty is a Christian wife, mother and author. She runs a ministry and blog at www.KeeperMinistries.com where the focus is on ministering to Christian women who are seeking to fulfill God’s callings on their lives; specifically in regards to marriage, mothering and being a keeper of the home. She also ministers to those who struggle with infertility. Her book, entitled, “Keeper of His Home” is out and available. Follow Chelsea on Facebook at Keeper of His Home.

This post is part of the Thankful for God’s Gifts Blog Hop.  Please be sure to stop by the other participants listed below.

11/17/14  Loving Christ Ministries: Thankful In Grief www.lovingchristministries.com

11/18/14  Keeper Ministries: The Barren Woman a Joyful Mother – God’s Perfect Gift www.KeeperMinistries.com

11/19/14  Teena Myers Blog: A Greater Gift http://teenalmyers.com/blog/

11/20/14  Live, Love, Laugh, Post:  7 Reasons I Am Thankful For God http://livelaughlovepost.com/2014/11

11/21/14  The Green Tomato Experience: To Serve and Capture http://www.thegreentomatoexperience.com/

11/22/14  Donna Stone Blog, Giving Thanks: Searching the Storm Clouds for Silver http://donnastone.me/

11/24/14  Sister We Thrive: Sister, given any thought to being thankful? Well, I have. http://www.lindsyb.com/#!blog/c17x6

11/25/14  Completely Committed Blog: Another Battle And Solution http://completelycommittedgirl.blogspot.ca/2014/11/another-battle-and-solution.html

11/26/14  The Kangacoo Blog www.kangacoo.com/blog

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27 responses to “From Barren Woman to Joyful Mother – God’s Perfect Gift

  1. Julie says:

    So beautifully written! Your faith is an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your story and providing hope.

  2. Katie says:

    Glory to God that he not only gave you a precious girl but made you a witness of His power and faithfulness. All good things come from God!

  3. Donna says:

    God’s plans are always the best plans. Thank you for these words.

  4. jcortesmackenroth says:

    Your post made me crying! My husband and I keep trying since 2 years, we want to have a child. My husband told me about the story of Sarah and Abraham, you know. He also told me that the Lord knows our plan. So thank you for sharing 🙂 Hugs!

    • Praying for you sister. You may also want to read of the story of Hannah. God does amazing things, but it’s always according to His timing and plan. Continue to put your trust in Him and seek Him first. God bless you!

  5. jcortesmackenroth says:

    Your post made me crying! My husband and I keep trying since 2 years. You know, he told me about the story of Sarah and Abraham. They finally had children when they were old. Anyway, thank you for sharing this 🙂

  6. Beautifully written & equally moving. I have a similar story and your testimony hits home. Thank you for sharing.

  7. Thank you for this post! I loved how you said you cried out in frustration yet “I loved Him, even when it hurt, and knew He was good, even when it felt like there was nothing good around me.” To me that is so beautiful because it reminds me that we can get frustrated, we can get tired and we can get angry, that does not change the fact that we love Him and He loves us! Thank you for sharing a beautiful miracle with us as well, miracles still happen and your sweet daughter is one of them!! Blessings!

  8. Teena Myers says:

    Several friends came to mind reading about your struggle to have a baby. I will never forget the guilt of being pregnant after a friends pregnancy ended tragic costing her the baby and her uterus. But God was faithful. She adopted a little girl two months before my son was born. The friend in his 40’s who lost hope of getting married and having a child. Today he is married with a three year old. A friend whose three daughters miscarried, some more than once and the physical and emotional pain they endured. And the friend in her 30’s who weeps because she wants to have a child, but has not received her miracle yet. Please pray God will bless Elinor with a child.

  9. Melinda says:

    Chelsea,

    Thank-you for sharing your journey, and how God answered your prayers. I especially love the part about the confirmation. God uses different people, sermons, bible studies, His Word, devotionals, and so many other ways to confirm what He is saying to me as well, and I am in awe every time He does this, and oh so grateful! You give hope to so many by sharing your journey! Great job!

    Blessings,
    Melinda

  10. Beth Caplin says:

    I’m glad you mentioned that a desire for parenthood can be fulfilled in other ways besides pregnancy. Many women on my mom’s side have struggled with infertility, and I was conceived with expensive pharmaceutical help. I wouldn’t be surprised if one day I too experience fertility struggles, so I’m accepting now that that might be the case. God doesn’t owe us anything, even if what we desire is good. I know plenty of faithful couples who have been married decades and still remain childless. But I hope the couples who struggle with infertility consider fostering or adoption. There are so many children out there in need of loving homes.

  11. Thank you for your encouraging testimony. BEAUTIFUL!

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  13. […] To put my daughter before me, to be grateful for Gods gift, to remember what a miracle she is (for the full story check my wife’s blog) and when I am with her, be actually with her. Not just in the same room but be grateful for the […]

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  15. […] After 4 years of not being able to conceive this mother never lost her faith.  God rewarded her faith by telling her twice that she would give birth and finally she was blessed with a baby girl.  Come read her beautiful story of hope and love.  https://keeperministries.com/2014/11/18/from-barren-woman-to-joyful-mother-gods-perfect-gift/ […]

  16. […] link (Keeper Ministries) I quote from will tell you in my wife’s own words why this verse is […]

    • Sister, why do we, women, need to read a list admonishing husbands? I ask you to prayerfully consider what you’re saying. Why would we need to analyze and recite a list of things our husbands should do better? How does that help us? Now, wouldn’t it be wonderful if husbands were encouraging husbands in these things? Yes! And that is happening…men discipling men to be good husbands and fathers, to care for their families, to walk in compassion and love and gentleness and understanding. Absolutely! If you were to look up blogs from Christian men encouraging other husbands you would no doubt find these lists. Still, why would we women need to read them? Why would we want to? So we can pick apart our husbands and identify where they are lacking? So that we can feel worse when they don’t measure up? So that we can change them?

      Sister, we can’t change our husbands. We can’t force them to be better husbands or fathers. They will change when they are convicted by the Holy Spirit and discipled by other men. What they do is between them and God. What we do…that’s between us and God. My calling here is to encourage wives to love and respect their husbands, to be good mothers, to make their house a home and to edify. I, myself, suffer from a chronic illness, so I understand how hard it is. Yet my goal is to, through the power of Christ, be the best wife and mother I can be.

      If you really want to read articles admonishing husbands, then read my husband’s blog. That’s what he does. He encourages men to love their wives. I don’t need to read that. I need to do my part and in doing so I have been able to build a beautiful family and home…because we did it God’s way. I encourage you sister to pray about this. I appreciate you’re stopping by and I pray that you would really consider my response and not simply dismiss it. Marriage is hard…the divorce rate shows us that. We need to be actively working on our marriages and God can change a bad one to a wonderful one if people are willing to set aside their own lists of complaints and embrace their roles and callings. God bless you!

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