Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

One Kind, Thoughtful Word

on June 11, 2014

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“She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26

One kind word. Sometimes that’s all it takes. Sometimes the only thing a person needs is a kind word or two to bring them back from a place of hurt and sadness. A kind word can bring healing, forgiveness and encouragement.

The Proverbs 31 Woman, known for her virtue and goodness, knew how to use her words to minister to others. Scripture tells us she had both wisdom and kindness coming forth from her mouth. I absolutely love this and absolutely confess that this is an area in which I have always struggled. My tongue has always been like a wild fire – quickly lit, difficult to put out and ever-so destructive to anything in the way. I’m ashamed to admit it, but it’s true. I want so much to be like this woman who uses her tongue to offer up kind, thoughtful words to family, friends and the lost. This is the prayer of my heart.

I love that scripture says she has wisdom in her words first. I think so often we neglect to think our words through before blurting them out. Even if they are what we perceive to be kind words, we need to execute wisdom and judgement in what we say. So often the wisest people I’ve met have been the ones who are slow to speak, because they season their words with consideration and prayer. Before we speak to someone about anything of importance, we should always be in prayer. Before giving an answer, we should ask the Holy Spirit to direct our tongues. We should consider scripture and God’s character in issuing our words, and we should never, ever give counsel of any kind that contradicts His Word….no matter how we feel about it.

Kindness is such a precious attribute. Some women seem to just exude kindness by their nature. Others have to work to be kind. So much of that has been caused by our upbringing and backgrounds. While I do believe in personal responsibility, I do know that the fact that I grew up with a father who verbally abused all of us throughout my childhood has affected my own struggles with my tongue. I grew up listening to this man, who was supposed to be a spiritual leader, protector and covering, curse and scream words of hatred at my mother and occasionally us kids. If you think that doesn’t affect a person long-term, you’re wrong. It does. My default is words of anger and strife. My default is words that tear down and hurt. That’s the thorn in my flesh. Still, through the power of the Holy Spirit and a close walk with Jesus, I am able to overcome the flesh and walk in the precious newness of life. When, however, I neglect to spend time with my Lord, I am weak and tend to fall back into the struggles of the flesh.

God is so merciful. He is so kind. He loves to show us kindness and He loves when we are kind to others. God is glorified when our tongues issue wise, kind words that build up and edify His people. He is glorified when we minister to others through words of comfort, love and hope. He is glorified when our words are the gospel to the lost and new life to the dead inside. He is glorified when sisters in the Lord stop what they are doing to send a quick text message to encourage a sister who is struggling. He is glorified when a person returns a kind word for an ugly word and gives grace to an offense instead of anger.

Sometimes it’s just one kind word that makes all the difference in the world. I challenge myself and my sisters to pray for the Lord to fill our hearts and mouths with wisdom and kindness. I pray that we would be more discerning and attentive to the Spirit’s leading when it comes to reaching out with a kind word to a sister, brother, friend or family member who may need a little encouragement or a reminder of your love. I pray that we would be willing to speak with wisdom instead of allowing our words to run wild.

May our words be life-giving and hope-bearing. May they be filled with honor and glorifying the Lord at all times. May we walk closely with the Lord so that we are able to speak in the Spirit and not in the flesh.

One kind, thoughtful word….sometimes that’s all it takes.

“Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Proverbs 16:24

4 responses to “One Kind, Thoughtful Word

  1. Sasha says:

    Such a simple and yet powerful reminder. All it takes sometimes is one word.

  2. Naomi says:

    I can relate to this. My father was abusive and also my ex-husband. I now see the effect it’s had on my children. This is written with wisdom and gentleness. Thank you.

    • Sister, I’m so sorry for the abuse you’ve endured. Praying for healing for you and your children and for God to continue to be strong for you through what must have been horrific trials. Thank you for commenting.

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