Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

A Gentle Tongue

“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4

I was not born with a gentle tongue. I think that before I could even form words I was probably complaining, whining, criticizing, debating and making large declarations. I have always been somewhat strong-willed and opinionated. I admit it, though I’m not proud of my disposition. It is most certainly my nature to speak harshly, confidently, arrogantly and sometimes without consideration for how my words may be received.

That being confessed, I share with great joy that God has and is always working on me to mold me into the kind of woman He wants me to be. He is taking my stubborn tongue and teaching it to be gentle so that my words are a blessing to my family, friends and the lost instead of being a loud and brassy, clamorous noise. This education in speaking with gentleness does not come easy for me and so I must be walking in the Spirit to be able to do what my hearts wants. As with so many struggles, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

In Proverbs 15:4 there, the word for “gentle” is the Hebrew word “marpe'” and it’s definition may surprise you. It surprised me as I looked into it. The word means, “gentle, soothing, profitable, able to cure, healing and sound of mind.” In other words, it’s not just the tone of the voice that is used. Gentle does not equal quiet. It’s the words that are spoken that matter the most. The words we speak with the tongue should be soothing, healing words. They should minister to and edify those around us. They should bring comfort, joy, peace and be filled with love. Isn’t that beautiful?

“A healing, soothing tongue is a tree of life…”.

Words are powerful indeed. Our tongues can bring life and health and goodness. With wisdom and spiritual maturity we can truly allow God to use our tongues to minister to His children and to share the gospel with the lost. We can use our words to build up our husbands and our children. We can use our tongues to teach our kids the ways of the Lord and to encourage those younger than us in the faith to grow in the Lord. The tongue can be a tree of life, powerful and edifying, or it can be used to break the spirit with perverseness.

The Hebrew word for “perverseness” is “celeph” which means, “crookedness, perverseness, crooked dealing, and perversion.” When we use our tongue for evil, we can literally crush the spirit. Another way to consider this is that, when we use the members of our body (including the tongue) to do/say evil, we absolutely quench the Spirit of God within us. Our crookedness and perversion keeps us from being able to minister to our families and friends or to serve God as we desire to do.

So what is crookedness or perversion of the tongue? A good indication is found in the scriptures surrounding this one in Proverbs 15 and in other verses throughout scripture. Here are some of the descriptions God uses in regards to the tongue/words of the crooked.

“…a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

“…the mouths of fools pour out folly.” Proverbs 15:2

“The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools.” Proverbs 15:7

“….the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.” Proverbs 15:28

“May the Lord cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that makes great boasts…” Psalm 12:3

“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.” Psalm 34:13

“Your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit.” Psalm 52:2

These are just a few verses. There are many, many more. Lying, gossip, speaking disrespectfully to your husband, stirring up wrath and anger, inciting division, breaking people down, etc. are all ways that we use our tongue for perverseness rather than for edification. We want our words to bring life, not misery. We want to speak encouragement, not judgement. We want everything we say to be filled with love and wisdom and kindness.

I thank the Lord abundantly that He continues to chip away at the areas of my life where I still struggle with sin, and this is one of those areas. I know my weakness to speak with anything but gentleness and blessing. I submit my heart and my tongue to the Lord Jesus Christ and ask Him to perfect His love in me and to make me an instrument of blessing, encouragement and edification, within my home and outside as well. I thank Him for bringing me this far and thank Him for what He’s yet to do. Hallelujah!



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Finding Mercy and Grace in Times of Need

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16

Confession time…I’m a a worrier. I tend to struggle with anxiety, stress, worry and even panic from time to time. When times get tough, this woman right here turns to mush. I don’t really have a tough bone in my body. The good news is I don’t need to be strong, independent or tough when the attacks of the enemy and the darkness of this life get me down. I can approach that glorious throne of grace with boldness and find the only mercy that truly ministers to me.

What a blessing is the mercy of the Lord! What a treasure is His peace!

I find very interesting that the verse above says we can enter the throne of grace in times of need to receive this ministering. I think we can all agree that coming to the throne of the Lord Jesus Christ is such an amazing and awesome privilege. Notice, however, that the scripture specifies we come in time of need. Isn’t it so very true that the times we recognize our need for Jesus the clearest are those times when we are suffering or facing diverse trials? The sufferings of this world make our hearts cry out for Jesus even more. The pain of sin, sickness and death remind us how much we need Jesus.

I love the song, “Lord I Need You” by Matt Maher.

“Lord, I need You, Oh I need You. Every hour I need You! My one defense. My righteousness. Oh God how I need you!”

I don’t know about you but I need God every hour of every day. This world is full of hard choices, temptation, struggles, pain and suffering….without the Lord we are going to fail and fall hard. I’ve been there. I know. When I begin to lose heart, and the world around me starts to look like it’s going to consume me, I remember the throne of Grace. I remember that God calls me there so that I can lay my needs, my fears, my worries and my pain at the feet of the One who conquered every evil thing with His death and resurrection.

I come boldly to the throne of grace. I confess. I repent. I surrender. I am forgiven. I am freed.

What I love so much about the Lord is His compassion and understanding. Sometimes when we go to friends and family, even brothers and sisters in the Lord, we come with our weakness and receive disappointment, judgement, disregard and piety. Yet when we come to the throne of grace, our Lord offers us mercy, love, forgiveness and compassion.

“For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted” Hebrews 2:18
We have a High Priest who understands our suffering, our temptation, our trials and our pain. He has suffered the same and worse, yet without sin. He overcame and defeated sin, and He is so very able to help us in our weakness. He does not despise us for it, but covers us in His perfection. He clothes us in His righteousness. He welcomes us into His throne room with love and mercy. The very thought of it moves me to tears.
Praise the Lord who loves us in our weakness. May we run to Him and remain in Him every moment of every hour of every day until He returns or calls us home. Amen?
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Review “Son of God” Movie

The media has not been lacking in reviews for the “Son of God” movie that has the Christian community excited (some positively and some negatively). Before watching the film, I read several articles in favor of the movie and several others that were not so flattering. So I saw the movie for myself, asked the Lord for discernment and have put together my own thoughts on this movie that has Christians lining up for miles to see. Here’s my review of “Son of God”:

Having read some negative articles sharing concerns that the “Son of God” movie had twisted scripture or misrepresented Jesus, I tried to be on my toes from the opening scenes through to the ending credits. I didn’t want to miss anything that may have been out of sort. I’ll share a couple of positives and negatives for the movie and then my overall opinion.

Positive Points

I thought the movie was well-made. The actors and actresses were all very good….especially the one to play the character of Jesus. I found him to really bring out the love and compassion of Jesus. Most of the lines were straight from scripture and were spoken naturally and powerfully. In this movie, one is given no reason to doubt whatsoever that Jesus was the sinless Son of God, that He was God and that He was the only way to salvation. Not a hint of religious pluralism anywhere. His nature, ministry, death and resurrection are all accurately represented and well-presented. There were also some great parallels and contrasts made, as we see the religious zealots of the day practicing rituals and totally missing the Messiah who was before their very eyes! There were few dry eyes at the end of the movie, which celebrated Christ’s victory over the grave and His promised return.

Negative Points

While I feel the movie was pretty accurate for the most part, there were a few errors here and there. None of them were big enough to greatly concern me. There was some artistic license taken in trying to make the movie flow smoothly. I didn’t like that part of the trial, in which Jesus is sent to Herod, is missing from the movie, but my husband pointed out that it was following the gospel of John and he did not record that part of it. Still, I would have preferred some mention of it. One of the points that has had some people in an uproar is that Mary Magdalene is always traveling with the disciples where ever they go. Some feel this is an attempt to give Mary a higher role, and therefore trying to justify female pastors and such. I agree that having Mary with the disciples all the time was a mistake, and I would have preferred them not to have done it that way, but I also don’t see it as a big enough reason to boycott the film. The whipping scene was also not as realistic as I would expect.

Final Thoughts

I thought this was a good movie and worth the time to see it. I think it has the ability to touch hearts. We know the Word of God does not return void, and the Word of God is spoken much during the movie. I don’t think the movie was as good or better than “Passion of the Christ” from a few years back, but it was good. I believe Jesus was represented well and the gospel message came through loud and clear. Was it perfect? No. There were some points where they missed the mark. That being said, I think people can get a good idea of who Jesus was, why He came and that He is the only way to salvation from this movie, and that’s definitely the most important goal.


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