Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

Because He Needed a Helper

on March 30, 2014


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There are so many misconceptions about the roles of man and woman in marriage. As with so many other issues, it can be difficult to understand the balance between authority in the home and how that defines us as individuals. We know that God had a specific design for the home in regards to the roles of husband, wife and children. These roles were for our good and for His glory, yet over time the world twisted this design and tried to make alterations to fit a changing society. In doing so, we lost much of the original concept of what Biblical marriage should look like.

What people can’t seem to reconcile is the the fact that we are called to follow and submit to our own husbands, and yet we are equally as important and valued. They see the word “submit” and immediately spring into fight mode. They don’t see the beauty in the role that we’ve been given, and I think this happens because they don’t seem to comprehend why God created woman in the first place. When you understand WHY God created womankind, doubts and fears about our calling to submit to our husbands fades away.

There are three points I want to make about why we should view our role as beautiful:

1. God created us ladies in His image too! 

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27

We daughters of God bear the image of the Father just like the men do. It’s as if when God created man and woman, He split His characteristics and gave some to each. Together, when joined in marriage or in working together in the church family, these characteristics compliment each other and even compensate for weaknesses. In this, we know that God created women in general to be tender-hearted, nurturing and compassionate by nature. We are often times sensitive, discerning and creative. These are all characteristics we inherit from our Father that equip us for His plans for us.

2. God sees His daughters and sons as having equal importance and an equal inheritance.

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

We are all one in Christ. We are joint heirs in the grace of life. We receive the inheritance the same as our husbands. We are all children of the same Father and given an equal place in His family. There is nothing secondary or lesser about our place in God’s heart. We are His. We are equal. We have different roles, but both are of equal importance and beauty.

3. God created Eve for Adam because he needed a helper.

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” Proverbs 31:10

“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-5

Adam watched as the animals paired up with one another; a male and a female perfectly suited to meet each others needs. God saw his burden that he had no companion suitable for him. God said He would make a helper for Adam and He created Eve. Eve was the answer to Adam’s prayers. She was God’s most precious gift to him. She was his helper and companion. Notice Adam had already been given his calling by God to care for the garden and the animals. Eve wasn’t there to change the plan but to come alongside her man and help him in any way he needed.

In the same way, we women need to recognize that our husbands need us. Just when we are feeling unappreciated or taken for granted, we need to look at our men and remember that the Word says it is not good for man to be alone. Man needed woman. Your husband needs you. He needs you to care for the home and the children. He needs you to be his best friend and his number one fan. He needs your encouragement during trials and your praise when he succeeds. He needs your prayers, your patience and your unconditional love and respect. Your husband needs you to be his and his alone in the bedroom. He needs you to help him in areas where he is weak and to make him feel like a better man. Most of all your husband needs you to be a constant reminder that God loved Him enough to send him a beautiful helper like you, full of grace and meekness.

Don’t be deceived like the world is, sister. Don’t allow society to tell you that there is anything wrong with the roles you’ve been created for. God made you with everything you need to be your husband’s perfect helper. You are so very important to the Lord, your husband and your kids. I pray that today your heart is reminded how utterly awesome it is to be a helpmeet. Be proud of your roles as you walk through the center of God’s will for your life.

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