Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

She Makes Him Look Good!

on March 20, 2014


“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” Proverbs 12:4

Hunny, you can make that man of yours look good or you can bring him down. All of us wives have the power to be a crown to our husbands, bringing them honor, or to bring them shame. It’s as simple as that. Each one of us must decide each day whether or not we will obey the Lord and be a crown to our husbands.

There is something special about a virtuous woman who is dedicated to making her husband look good. She shows her commitment to her man in the words of her mouth, the way that she behaves and the consistency of her choices. I wish I could say that I have been this virtuous everyday of my marriage, but that wouldn’t be true. I’ve certainly struggled in this area, but God isn’t finished with me yet, amen? He continues to perfect in me what is clearly imperfect and to help me to make better choices each day that passes. So what does this virtuous woman do and say to become that stunning crown for her husband?

What to say?

* Uplifting and encouraging words

* Speak of love, honor and respect

* Build him up, in public and in private

* Refrain from criticizing him in front of others

* Never gossip about your husband

* Thank him for what he does

* Pray for him often and fervently

* Remind him that you are his #1 fan

* Let the law of kindness and grace dwell ever on your tongue

What to do?

* Give affection

* Serve willingly

* Follow where he leads

* Help him as he follows the Lord

* Make him a priority

* Care for his needs

* Nurture the sexual relationship

* Never turn your back on him

If everything we do and say is with the motivation of being a crown to our husbands, we will see them walking in honor, with their heads held high. It isn’t about inflating one’s pride in self, but rather reminding our man that he has a wife who loves him, respects him, desires good for him and will always be at his side through good and bad times. A man with a wife like this can face the world with confidence. He feels blessed by the Lord. Others will notice this man and wonder what it is he has going for him that gives him such peace and confidence. He has the Lord Jesus Christ and he has a wife who loves God and loves him. What a blessing indeed!!

Even if your husband isn’t walking with the Lord, being a crown to him is a wonderful witness. A man who doesn’t know the Lord will be so in awe of a woman who treats him so well and he will wonder why she does what she does. The truth is, it doesn’t really matter who your husband is or whether or not he is worthy of any honor or respect. God tells us that we can make our husbands look so good by following the Word of God, being virtuous and by honoring our husbands with our whole hearts.

Let’s do this sisters. Let’s choose to be a crown to our men. Let’s bring them honor and not shame!


photo credit: pedrosimoes7 via photopin <a

8 responses to “She Makes Him Look Good!

  1. Taking the Epistle says:

    Love this Chelsea! Great article! heard this passage on the radio yesterday too!

  2. peacefulwife says:

    Great post!!!! Thank you for allowing God to work through you so powerfully!! 🙂

  3. Thank you for this post. It is so encouraging. This is something I need to work on. I started an edification journal for my husband. I write in it periodically for him to read and I also write lists in it of things I am thankful for and that he is great at. I need to start working on verbalizing this though. I would love for you to check out my blog as well. Thanks so much!

    • Love that practice sister! My husband and I did a love journal for a while. So exciting to read each other’s hearts every day. We may need to start that up again! Thanks for the idea! God bless you! Looking forward to seeing you blog as well.

  4. prayinglikehannah says:

    Good post Chelsea! 🙂

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