Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

Physical Pain for the Wife & Mother

“When Jesus heard that, he said, This sickness is not unto death, but for the glory of God, that the Son of God might be glorified thereby.” John 11:4

This is a topic that’s been on my heart quite a bit lately. Due to my own health issues, I’ve come to identify with the struggle of our sisters who deal with chronic pain and disease on a regular basis, and how difficult it is, particularly as a wife and mother. My own battles with chronic pain began almost two years ago, and the symptoms I face get stronger and more challenging to deal with day by day. I am, as of yet, still undiagnosed and currently awaiting testing at a hospital known for superior diagnostics, so praying to get some answers there.

The calling of wife and mother is no easy one, even for the healthy-bodied woman. On any given day there is laundry, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, meeting the needs of the children, meeting the needs of the husband, schooling, ministry and anything else that may come up. There is hospitality, discipleship and ministering to the lost. Then there are those of us who also need to make an income. Some women work outside the home, and others (like myself) work from the home so that I can home-educate my daughter. Let’s face it ladies, our plates are overflowing with activities, tasks and projects. The truth is, we don’t have time to be sick.

We don’t have time to be sick; not even with the flu. At least with the flu you can safely assume a few days of down time and then a recovery. This is not the case with chronic disease and pain. A woman with painful medical conditions, such as Fibromyalgia or Lyme Disease, can almost count on waking up each morning in pain. While there are generally good days and bad days, there is no expectation of complete recovery, except for through miraculous healing from Jesus. While we pray for healing, we also accept God’s will, and sometimes His plan involves allowing us to experience pain and sickness for His glory to be revealed.

In the verse above, Jesus is talking about his friend Lazarus who is very ill. Jesus says this illness is not going to lead to death, but to the end result of revealing the glory of God. His disciples are quite perplexed indeed when Lazarus does die, but our Lord Jesus Christ knew that the death was but a mirage. He would raise Lazarus from the dead. Even knowing that, Jesus wept for His beloved friend.

To my beloved sisters who share in my struggles with pain, let us be encouraged. Sometimes we may wonder by God isn’t healing us now or why He allows us, His daughters, to suffer. My heart has posed these questions as well. We see that sometimes God allows sickness, suffering and pain because somehow in the big picture it brings about a good result. Sometimes it draws attention to God’s glory. Perhaps when people see us persevering through pain to serve our families and minister to the lost, they see God’s mighty hand carrying us through. God gets the glory. Be further encouraged to know, sisters, that Jesus’ words are true for us too. This sickness is not to death. Even though this life is a constant struggle and there is much pain, we are promised an eternity with our God in new bodies that will be untouched by pain. We are alive forevermore with Him who gave His life for us. The pain is for a short while, but our life eternal with Christ is what follows. We have to press on as best we can and trust the Lord to lift our weary arms and hold us together.

As I write this blog, tears fill my eyes because I know there is hope. I’ve definitely felt hopeless at times. I’ve felt defeated when I didn’t have the strength to finish my housework, or when I couldn’t chase my daughter in the park. I’ve cried out to my Lord, begging Him for answers. We will have those days of inner conflict, but we must admonish ourselves to remember Jesus’ words. This sickness is not to death. We have victory in Jesus and He will help us through every hard day, hold us when we are week and weary, and mend our hearts when they are broken. I pray sisters that today you know that your sickness is not to death. If you know Jesus and He knows you, you will one day be pain free. Hallelujah!

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Cry Out to the Lord and be Saved

“Then they cry unto the LORD in their trouble, and he saveth them out of their distresses.” Psalm 107:19

God never promised we wouldn’t have trouble in this life. In fact, He assured us we would. Life is brutal. The enemy is pacing the doors of our home waiting to pounce on us at every opportunity. Temptation and sin abounds in our land and it is no doubt becoming like the days of Noah before the flood. As the final times approach, we are faced with every trial and challenge one could imagine, and we suffer. We feel the weight of the burden on our shoulders. We experience loss, mourning, poverty and persecution. We weep.

I’ve experienced pain too. I’ve struggled with health issues and financial challenges. I know the pain of infertility. I have lost my share of loved ones. I’ve been touched by depression and grief that only the Lord God could have pulled me out of. Why do I share this? I want to encourage you that, as Christians, it’s okay NOT to be okay sometimes. It’s okay to struggle and to experience sadness. We can weep. Jesus wept for the death of Lazarus, and He knew the big picture and that He would resurrect his friend. God does not expect us to be untouched by the pain of this world. What He expects is for us to cry out to Him in our distress and He promises salvation.

God knows we are weak. He knows we will struggle and go through pain. He gives us permission to cry out to Him. Crying out is an urgent, heart-filled cry for help like a child does in the middle of the night when she has a bad dream. She cries out for her parents to help her and good parents run to their child, embracing her, wiping away her tears and settling her down. That’s what God does. He holds us in His arms, whispers encouragement and brings salvation. He may not remove all of the challenges, but He gives us strength to make it through the trials. He will even give us joy and peace amidst the storms of this life.

While pain is very real, and we are by no means safe from its reach, we have a blessed hope. We know that when we cry out, our God will save us. He will replace mourning with dancing. He will carry us through the fire. Cry out to Him. Cry out!

“For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” Romans 8:18

 

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Do Christians Focus Too Much on Marriage?

I have heard more than a couple times people criticizing some Christians and churches for focusing too much on the God-given and God-designed union of marriage. I’ve heard people make statements like, “oh it’s all about marriage at that church” or “they elevate marriage too much.” I wanted to address the issue of why marriage is an important topic to discuss, but first I’d like to talk about why there are people who seem to be offended by too much marriage talk.

People like myself, who feel called to the ministry of marriage, may sometimes struggle with being understanding of a person who seems almost anti-marriage. The truth in most cases is those who have a hard time with a church or a group focusing a lot on marriage  are usually people who are single, widowed or in a lonely, struggling marriage. It’s important that instead of getting frustrated, we understand that these ladies are going through pain. Perhaps hearing about marriage all of the time and seeing married couples always clinging to each other causes them to long even more for that relationship. Perhaps it makes them mourn for a lost love. Even worse, it reminds them that they feel trapped in an unloving marriage. Sometimes there is a problem with the church not meeting the needs of ALL the members. The singles and widows need focus too. They need ministry and opportunities to serve too.

I think I understand their perspective more so being a woman who has struggled with infertility. While children are such a blessing, and I was always happy for a sister in the Lord who had a baby, there was also such hurt and longing in me that it was sometimes difficult to be around pregnant women or people with babies. It was hard to see the children being such a focus when I couldn’t have any. I’m so grateful now for my precious little girl –  a gift straight from God! I do, however, see how a single person or widow would feel neglected and hurt by a church family that focused all its attention on marriage.

That being said, while I feel we should not neglect or ignore anyone, there is an important place for marriage. Here are some reasons why marriage is an extremely important issue to focus on:

1. Marriage is Gift from God: God focuses a lot on relationships in the Bible, and He speaks a great deal on the topic of marriage. He created marriage in the book of Genesis and He make it sacred. He made it to be a lifelong covenant, and in Malachi 2 we see that God hates the act of divorcing. When Jesus is asked about divorce in Matthew 19:8, He said that divorce was allowed because of the hardening of hearts, but from the beginning it was not so. God never wanted divorce. That’s why marriage vows typically say “til death do we part”, and yet to some 41-44% of couples who marry today, those are just empty words.

2. Christian marriage produces godly offspring: In talking about marriage Malachi said, “But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.” Malachi 2:15a. Christian marriage is important to the youth of this generation. According to the US Census Bureau, grown children of happily married parents are about 14% less likely to divorce their own spouse. Of all children, close to half will witness the end of their parents’ marriage and, of those kids, half of them will witness the end of a parent’s second marriage as well. According to an article by the Huffington post, children of divorce are seven times more likely to suffer from depression. Also, of all the adolescents in substance rehabilitation clinics, some 75% are from single-parent homes. Similar statistics are true for prison. Marriage is important because a godly marriage is good for children.

3. Marriage is a reflection of our relationship with God: Ephesians 5 and other parts of scripture show us that earthly marriage is a reflection of the relationship of Christ and the church. We are the bride and He is the Bridegroom. “Then one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls filled with the seven last plagues came to me and talked with me, saying, “Come, I will show you the bride, the Lamb’s wife.” Revelation 21:9

4. A godly marriage is a requirement for church leadership, elders/pastors and deacons. (Titus 1:6, 1 Tim 3:2, 1 Tim 3:12). A man whose home in not in order should not be serving in church leadership until he puts things right. That means a wife who is not living her life according to God’s statutes can disqualify her husband from leadership by her conduct. Does this mean that a man has to be married to serve? We don’t know if the emphasis of the verses in on the “one” wife or “husband”. In other words, is it important that he’s married, or just that he only has one as opposed to many? Well, God said that it wasn’t good for man to be alone and he needed a helper. On the other hand, Paul said that some are called to singleness. So, the answer is: I don’t know. What we do know for certain is that if a man is married, and he wants to serve in ministry, he should have his home in order.

5. Sex: That’s right! “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:2 According to God’s Word, sexual intimacy is only good and right inside the union of marriage. Today more and more couples choose to live together and put off getting married. They are living in sexual sin because marriage has lost its place of importance to much of the younger generation. Today people are shocked when two virgins in their twenties get married. It’s rare for people to hold onto their purity. So it’s important to focus on marriage and to teach the young people that sex is only okay inside marriage.

There are many more reasons that marriage is an important topic, but this is quite a long blog already. While we need to be careful not to exclude singles and our widows, we also need to focus even more on the union of marriage. We know that it’s important to God, so it should be important to us too.

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The Violent Nature of Divorce

“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:6

There’s no doubt that divorce is a painful event in a person’s life. It can cause trauma, suffering, stress and oftentimes depression. It is even worse when there are children caught in the middle. Parents aren’t only mourning the loss of their marriage, but also worrying about the emotional affects on their children. There is sometimes guilt and regret. There is always pain. Why? Why is divorce so painful? Why does it cause long-lasting scars?

Before I answer that question, I first want to say to those who have been through a divorce that I’m so sorry for the pain you’ve experienced. As I write this, I’m keenly aware that there are many people who tried to save their marriages but couldn’t. There are women whose husbands walked out on them. There are men whose wives left them, like Hosea’s did. There are women who have had to flee for their very lives and the protection of their children. I know all too well that there are situations that are very complex. I say this because I never want my posts to feel like an attack on people who have lost their marriage. I feel for you and pray for you, even as I write this. The Lord is near the brokenhearted. He brings comfort and restoration and peace, so cling to Him!

Now, back to the question at hand. Why is divorce so ugly? Why is it so painful? The truth is, at the very root and concept of divorce, is violence. The act of divorce is a violent one, according to God’s Word. In other words, the destruction of a marriage is a lot like a violent attack on a person. Review the verse above from Matthew 19. God made them one flesh. One flesh. No longer two individual people but one unit. He meant it to be a beautiful union, and praise the Lord that for many couples it is! One flesh. What does divorce do to that one flesh? It rips it apart. It’s violent. It’s so sad.

“”For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”” Malachi 2:16

In Malachi God says that He hates divorce because it covers one’s clothing with violence. The Hebrew word for “violence” can translate into: “violence, wrong, cruelty and injustice”.   Some people will read this and feel offended. They will say that they know God blessed their divorce and that He gave them peace about getting divorced. Well, I can see how God, the Father of all grace and mercy would bring peace and comfort to someone hurting from the pain of divorce. Yes, He is so merciful! He is so graceful! He is so good to us. However, the God of the Bible is not only a God of love…He is also a God of justice. He is holy. He is righteous. The God of the Bible would never guide His children into divorce. If divorce makes a person’s garments stained with violence and injustice, then the God of the Bible wouldn’t approve of that, would He? It goes against His very character. He will, however, clean the stains off a repented person later by blood of the Lamb. He will forgive. He will cleanse. He’s so good.

We have to stop softening divorce. It’s not pretty. It’s not amiable. It’s not a “friendly” divorce. Divorce, by it’s very nature, rips one flesh to pieces. That’s violent, wrong and unjust. Thank the Lord that those who have been through divorce can run to Him for His healing touch. For those who do have a chance to save your marriage, don’t stop trying. Don’t give up. The God who created the universe has the ability to work a miracle in your marriage. Just seek Him with everything that’s inside you and follow His Word.

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Why Marriage? Why You?

With the release of my book, “Keeper of His Home”, and the upcoming speaking engagements, I have been asked by several people to explain why I write and speak mostly about marriage. People have asked me why I feel called to this issue, especially in that I’ve only been married 8 years myself. Why is it a topic that is so important to me?

In the Introduction of my book I share my testimony which sheds a little bit of light on that subject. I come from a broken home of divorce myself. My mother was a Christian and my father was not. My father was an adulterer (frequently) and verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to my mother. Childhood was hard. I was sixteen when the divorce went through and my father married his mistress, raising her kids. I didn’t have a relationship with him for 8 years, and even then it was labored and awkward. I can happily share that, by the power of the Holy Spirit, I was able to forgive him in the end and tell him I loved him the day he passed away. Praise the Lord!

Why marriage? Well, I don’t honestly know. All I can say is that the Lord has put the burden of marriage heavily upon my heart. I look around and see marriages ending, marriages in trouble and families being torn apart. I see statistics that send a shiver down my spine. I see the faces of children being caught in the middle and it breaks my heart. God had a plan when He created marriage, and this wasn’t it folks. This wasn’t it. His Word gives us the answer of how to have His plan for marriage actuated in our lives.

Why me? Again, I don’t really know. To be honest, I’m not the most perfect candidate. If there were any misgivings, let me lay them on the table now. I don’t have a perfect marriage. In fact, I’d say my marriage has been a hard one from the start. My husband and I honestly barely knew each other when we got married and have both changed so much since then (for the good I think). If not for God’s Word, I don’t think we would have made it, but this message changed my heart. While we don’t have a perfect marriage, we have a happy home. We have peace, joy and Jesus! We have a beautiful daughter whom we love dearly. She has parents who love each other through God’s love and respect and honor one another according to His Word. Do we make mistakes? YES! We make mistakes but God’s grace is sufficient and each year we get better.

Proverbs 5:18-19

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”
 
God has called me to the ministry of marriage and I accept that calling, knowing I’m inadequate, ill-equipped and unqualified. Thank the Lord He uses the weak things of this world to confound the strong! If your women’s ministry would like me to come and share at one of your events, feel free to contact me. God bless you!
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Covering Our Sins

“He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.” Proverbs 28:13

Covering our sins leads to failure, but confessing our sin leads to mercy. It’s funny that so often we refuse to see or acknowledge sin in our lives. We think that by ignoring it, keeping it a secret and pretending it just isn’t there we can get by. We think we can fool God. It seems that this vain attempt only makes us the fool. I’ve been that fool many times.  I thought that by covering up my sins, and not allowing others to see what I was struggling with, that I would escape consequences and correction from the Lord. I would be filled with conviction, but still unwilling to face it.

Thank the Lord that He is loving, patient and full of mercy. All we have to do to shed those heavy weights of guilt and shame is to confess our sins, forsake them and prepare for a mercy shower. We hide in the dark and we suffer, but it is when we allow the Light to chase away our darkness that we find mercy, peace and forgiveness. Oh, we torture ourselves so! We suffer needlessly! All we need to do is confess and turn from our sins and it’ll be over. We receive the new mercies of the Lord, sweet and unwavering. We feel His presence renew our hope!

As women, we love to talk. We talk about this and that. We love to share about our emotions and our thoughts and our opinions. We chat with our husbands, our friends and sometimes even strangers! Yet when it comes to confessing sin, we tend to leave that one alone. We talk about the weather before we admit we’ve been struggling with a sin issue. Ultimately every one of us wants to be thought well-of by our friends. We are afraid of being judged and looked down upon. Yet, we know from reading God’s Word that no one is without sin…including that one lady at church who just seems to have it all together! She’s fallen short of the glory of God too sisters! It’s just the way it is.

Now I’m not saying we have to confess everything to our friends or family. We can confess our sins directly to Jesus to receive forgiveness. What I am saying is that the New Testament church and the epistles tell us that confessing to one another and praying for one another in areas of sin struggle is a good thing. There is something about confessing that secret, dark sin that causes it to lose it’s grip on you. We let the light expose the darkness and the darkness hides! We also are able to help one another to walk through areas of struggle. We can be accountable to one another. We can bear each other’s burdens.

Sisters, we are a family in the Lord. We are called to help one another grow in Him. Let us no longer keep our sins covered, but rather confess, be transparent, forsake our sin and allow the mercy of the Lord to heal our brokenness. He wants to bless us. He wants us to do well. He wants us to confess so that the chains fall off and we are free. Do it now. Don’t wait. God bless!

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We Need Trials and Tribulation

1 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” – Romans 5:1-5

Yes! I have a flat tire on my car. Yay! My house is infested with termites. Fantastic! I’ve just been diagnosed with a chronic medical condition. Yippee! I am behind on my housework, late on a deadline and can’t cover all the bills this month. Thank You Lord for these trials.

I have always found this passage in Romans 5 to be very convicting and also challenging. Throughout my life it has seemed my family (both as a child and now my own family unit) have struggled with many trials. They come often and they come like an avalanche. They hit hard and they keep on hitting. Struggles with finance, health, family relationships and more have been numerous and often bringing an overload of strong emotions for an emotional lady like me. I can say with honesty that my emotional response to the trials that come is rarely joy and thanksgiving. I can truthfully say this is an area I’ve failed in time and time again. Yet, I know that the Lord would not have commanded me to do something that was beyond my capability.

Do you rejoice in trials? Do you thank the Lord for hardships and pain? Romans 5 tells us that we should in fact be grateful for those times when our faith is tested. The trials we face produce in us perseverance or patience. Without these trials its hard to grow in this area. How do you develop patience without have your patience tested? Have you ever met a person with very little patience for others? They snap when someone makes a mistake. Think of the mother in the grocery store with her toddler. When the kid messes around, like kids are prone to do, the mother has no patience to deal with the child in an appropriate way but rather screams at him, slaps him upside the back of the head and shoots others dirty looks for gawking at the scene she’s making. If there is one fruit of the Spirit we need as mothers, and wives, it’s patience! We need it to serve our families and our church family. We need it to serve the lost. I cry out for the Lord to give me patience, and to answer that prayer, He gives me a trial to test my patience. So we thank God that He is working.

Patience creates character. Think about the good and upstanding character of the Proverbs 31 woman. We love to look at her example. She has such an honorable character.  It takes patience for a woman to have that kind of character. You know these women when you meet them. They are prudent, wise and kind. They are slow to anger and quick to love. Patience brings about a beautiful and virtuous character in a woman of God; the kind of character that bring her husband and children to rise up and call her blessed.

Character produces hope and hope doesn’t disappoint. Hope. This small word means so much. You see, hope isn’t a flimsy wish or unreliable dream. Hope is so much more. Hope is a joyful expectation of the goodness to come. Hope is strong and steadfast. Hope is knowing that Christ is coming back. Hope is knowing that these trials are but for a moment, but eternity with God is our future. Hope trumps the pain and suffering we experience. We can get through the worst of trials if we are filled with the unwavering hope of Jesus Christ.

You see, we need hope because the trials aren’t likely to stop coming. The bills will come each month. The cars, like our own bodies, will break down and fail us. The kids will test us often. We know trials are coming. What we need to recognize is that for us to develop as God’s daughters we need trials. We need them so that we can grow in patience, character and glorious hope. While I may not feel now that I can rejoice in tribulations, I have the Holy Spirit within me and with God ALL things are possible. Amen!

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Gracious Woman

“A gracious woman retains honor, but ruthless men retain riches.” Proverbs 11:16

I love this verse. It’s really a wake-up call and a reminder of what’s important in life. We so often get it all backwards. I know I do. Then God gives us a beautiful scripture like this and reminds us that there is more to life than what the world seeks. There’s more than riches and wealth, fame and power. There’s more important things than achieving worldly beauty or fighting for position. A gracious woman retains honor.

Graciousness is a beautiful characteristic of how God describes an honorable woman. The word could be translated to mean “favor, grace, charm, having found grace in someone’s eyes.” The idea here is that a woman who is seeking the Lord walks in His grace and is consequently a gracious woman herself. She is humble, kind, generous, loving and sincere. She walks in integrity and dignity, as befitting a daughter of the King. She is also generous and charitable, not looking down on the poor but feeding them. She is gracious, slow to answer with harshness and quick to forgive in love. She retains honor because she walks in the grace of the Father. She knows where she came from and how much she has to be grateful for, and she therefore has no interest in chasing the material things of the world but rather enjoys the honor of the Father.

I love the word that is used here: “retain” or “retaineth” for the KJV fans. A gracious woman retains honor. That word retains is the Hebrew word “tamak” which means “to grasp, hold, support, attain, lay hold of, hold fast.” Notice that the translation covers the before and after of the verb? It means we are to grasp or lay hold of something and then we are also supposed to hold fast to it. It’s a continual process. We lay hold of honor and then we keep honor purposefully. Well, the laying hold of honor happens when we become daughters of the King, doesn’t it? When we become joint heirs with Christ, because of His amazing sacrifice on the cross, we are given a certain honor. It’s an awesome thing that God does. He calls us daughters! Then, as we walk with Him, we must walk in a way that holds fast to that honor. We walk in grace. Can we lose that honor and dishonor ourselves? I believe we can. I believe we do when we get distracted by those pollutions of the world again. We can set aside the honor we’ve received, but we can also take it up again by simply turning our eyes back to Jesus and accepting His grace and favor.

A gracious woman retains honor…she walks in honor and keeps honor because she is walking with her Father the King and seeking Him in all that she does. While she walks in honor, there are ruthless, strong and terrifying men and women seeking riches. If we want to seek riches instead of the honor that God gives via His grace poured out upon us, then we can choose that, but it will never satisfy. It will never bring joy and peace. It will only bring emptiness and despair. Riches of this world fade and will eventually burn, but God’s grace and honor endure forever.

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The Bond of Perfection

“But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.” Colossians 3:14

This short verse is so incredibly special and rich. Above all things put on love. It’s the bond of perfection. It’s the finishing touch of a list of ways we are to behave towards each other in the church family. Meekness, humility, longsuffering, forgiveness and love. God says above all else, put on love. It’s the bond of perfection.

Most of us are fond of the idea of love. We say “I love you” to family and friends. We sign cards with the traditional “Love” and our names. Generally speaking, I think we love to love others…especially those who love us in return. Yet, with all of these words of love floating about, I think we have yet to grasp the depth of meaning here when God says that love is the bond of perfection. In the church family, and most certainly in our homes, we need to see how love is the bond of perfection, but what does the phrase actually mean?

In the Greek text, the word  for “bond” is “syndesmos” which means “that which binds together, a band, bond, of ligaments by which the members of the human body are united together.” I sometimes think of bond more as in something that is a shared connection between two people. My daughter and I have a special bond. I bonded with a friend over a cup of coffee. These are ways I think of the word “bond”, and yet in this text it seems to mean so much more. This bond is literally the glue that is holding people together. It’s like the very ligaments that hold our own physical bodies together. If we didn’t have these ligaments, we would fall apart. We wouldn’t be able to function. There would be disunity, pain, suffering and complete insufficiency. 

So love is the bond that holds us together. It’s the glue. Maybe we should consider it to be more like the cement, because that’s so much stronger. It’s the ligaments that holds the body of God’s church together. If we don’t have love, we are not together. If we don’t have love, we are not unified. We are not in one accord. We are falling apart. There are a lot of churches out there filled with hurting people because they are not bonded together with love. Usually the sin issues that kill love are selfishness, envy, gossip and pride.

Perfection. The word in Greek is “teleiotēs” and it means “moral and spiritual perfection.” Interestingly it can also mean “the state of the more intelligent”. haha I like that. You know the “church” in America tries to bond itself together with a lot of imperfect things. Some churches try to bond together with the idea of health, wealth and prosperity. Others bond together by misuse and abuse of what are supposed to be spiritual gifts. Some churches bond together by their common rejection of what scripture clearly teaches. There are churches that think they are doing pretty well but find out they are bonded together by shared political ideas, all the “right” doctrines, the concept of baptism, the traditions of the church, etc. These things are imperfect. They are weak bonds at best. They will not hold together. The only perfect bond of perfection is love. We need to be bound by love.

Let us be bound by love, church family. Let us be sure that it is love holding us together. We can have differences of opinion, we can disagree about this or that, we can have our own preferences on worship style or church traditions….but above all things, let us be bonded by the common love that flows from inside each of us where the Holy Spirit dwells. Let His love flow from us and around us, binding us together in unity and wholeness and peace.

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