Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

Part 4 – Love Does not Parade Itself, The Loving Homekeeper Series

“…love does not parade itself…” 1 Corinthians 13:4

This phrase “parade itself” is one of those translational difficulties that makes it difficult for us to truly grasp the concept here. The translation about is New King James Version. Let’s look at a few other translations:

“charity vaunteth not itself” KJV

“love does not brag” NASB

“love…is not boastful” NLT

Looking at the various translations gives us a better idea of what this phrase is saying. Love is not boastful, does not brag, does not parade itself as if on display or vaunt itself. Basically it is referring to a self-display or putting oneself on something of a pedestal. It reminds me of when Jesus spoke of the religious people and how they loved to stand in the streets praying loudly so that all could see them. They were not doing this to get closer to God or to draw others to Him. They were putting their religion on display so that others would see it and would consider them more spiritual. Perhaps they even wanted to inspire envy in others.

Love does not parade itself. True love, the kind that comes from God, is not motivated by what other people see. As a wife and mother, we are called to love our husband and children. We act out that love in a variety of ways: words, touch, acts of service, etc. We show our loved ones how much they mean to us in our actions and words, and it is that agape love that should motivate us to do this. Where we get into trouble is when we are not motivated by love but rather by how others view us.

I had a friend years back who seemed to always be putting on a show for the rest of us whenever we were together. She would go on and on about how wonderful her marriage was, how perfect her children were and how lovely life was in general. While we should all rejoice in the blessings God has given us, we do have to be careful that we are not doing the things we do or saying the things we say to put on a show for other people so we look better in their eyes. Our love should be our motivator, or it is simply not genuine.

Think of a parade. The participants sit on a float that’s all decorated fancy and wave and smile. Those big smiles say nothing about what’s really going on in their lives. It’s a show. It’s a spectacle. It’s not real life. Love is not a show or a parade. Love needs to be genuine and real. Love is not boastful so that others will envy our lives. Love is authentic.

We have all put on an act at one time or another in our lives. It’s hard sometimes to be real. As a homekeeper, we can have the picture perfect home, family and lives and still not have the genuine article. So let me not boast to the world of my perfect marriage, shockingly obedient child, spotlessly clean home, and unwavering, steadfast faith that I might be seen as some super-spiritual love guru. Instead let me embrace my husband, even when its been a long, tiring day. Let me remind him that I love him and will follow him after we’ve had a disagreement. Let me discipline my child for not obeying and then give her a long hug to assure her of my deep love for her. Let me serve my family by working hard to make a warm, happy home for them and show hospitality even when it’s not in perfect order.

Love does not parade itself. Real love is not about impressing other people. It’s about what how you love behind closed doors, on the bad days, when everything is not perfect, when trials come and obstacles arise. Love is about overcoming the challenges together. Love is about serving through good and bad weather. Sisters, don’t let your love be just a show or a way to boast. Instead, love in truth and may love always be your motivator for being the keeper of your home.

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Part 3 – Love Does not Envy, The Loving Homekeeper Series

“Love does not envy.” 1 Corinthians 13:4

As I meditate on the concept of true, Godly love not be envious or jealous, and how that affects me personally as a keeper of the home, I find that it is quite relevant to my day to day life. In fact, jealousy and envy is one of the sins I struggle with more often. Studying the word’s origins is quite revealing. The word for “envy” is the Greek word “zēloō” which can be translated to “burn with zeal, to be heated, to boil with envy, hatred or anger, jealousy, to covet”. Interestingly, the same word can be used for a good type of zeal and can also be translated to mean “to be zealous in the pursuit of good, to desire one earnestly, to strive after one”.

When we think about pursuing someone with all your heart, the only One we should pursue with that intensity is Jesus Christ. At the same time, our amazing Savior is pursuing us and has a righteous jealousy towards us. That’s amazing and beautiful. What an honor to be pursued by the King of Kings! We can see that this word zēloō is to show us the type of zeal and burning we should have to follow after Christ with all that we have within us.

So how do we know when zēloō is righteous and when it is sin? Easy. The only zēloō that is good is when we are chasing after the Lord when we want more and more of Him and are never satisfied until we have all of Jesus in our lives. Chasing after anything other than the Lord with that heart becomes envy, jealousy, coveting, idolatry and sin. So here’s where we fall into danger.

I mentioned earlier that I struggled with envy. I certainly do. I envy women who I see as being more beautiful than myself. I sometimes struggled with envying others for their material possessions, their beautiful homes, their nice cars, their lack of struggles  to pay the bills each month. Being one that struggles with fertility issues, I have envied women who have been able to have babies easily. I admit that I have had to repent for envying women who seemed to have much better and easier lives than I. That envy, when left to rule our hearts, can turn to anger and hatred. It can cause us to burn on the inside and eats us alive. I’m ashamed that I have ever looked at a sister in the Lord and been so jealous of her that I burned with anger, but I have. I also have repented and am forgiven, praise Jesus!

Envy is not love and it does not produce love. Furthermore as a homekeeper, when I am envious of another woman’s home because it is beautiful, larger than mine, she has nice things, etc. I am being incredibly ungrateful for the home the Lord has given me and entrusted into my care. When we become ungrateful for what we have, we don’t care for what we have as we ought to. In other words, my lack of gratitude, brought on by envy, causes me to be a poorer homekeeper. When our eyes are always on the house across the street, we take our eyes off of our home and how we can make it special for our family. We may have not have the biggest or nicest house on the street, but we can make our home warm and joyful for our family and that’s what matters.

We must put off envy. We should not be chasing after material, earthly things, but sprinting towards Jesus all the time. Let us not be envy our sister’s home, possessions or even children, but let us be grateful for the family and home God has given us. Love does not envy. Let us love.

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Part 2 Love is Kind, The Loving Homekeeper Series

“…love is kind.” 1 Corinthian 13:4

Love is kind. The Greek word for “kind” is one that is not at all used often in the NT of the Bible. In fact, this verse in 1 Corinthians is the only time this word is used. It can be translated to “to show one’s self mild, to be kind, to use kindness.” I found it interesting that in God’s Word, which is filled to the brim and overflowing with verses about loving one another, showing grace and mercy, and carrying one another burdens, that this word for being kind is only used once.

In Ephesians 4:32 we see a different word for “kind” used. “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” This word for “kind” is the same English word but in Greek means “fit for use, useful, virtuous, good, mild, pleasant and manageable.” Interestingly this word seems to be more about how a person behaves or how he or she is useful rather than their demeanor. In the OT we see the English word “kind” used a lot, but almost always it refers to God’s kindness and mercy. We do have one great example in Proverbs 31:26 of course.

“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”

While they are not technically connected words, I think this example is the closest thing we see to the one in 1 Corinthians 13:4. This kindness that God speaks of isn’t necessarily about what we do for people, but rather our very heart towards them. As a keeper of the home, we do an awful lot for the ones we love. We cook, clean, sew, teach (the kids of course), encourage, plan, shop, budget…the list goes on and on. We do these things because we love God and we love our family. Sometimes I know I can get a bit worn out from the labor and the hard work. My spirit gets a bit deflated and I may start to lose that sweet demeanor that blesses my family.

I believe this is exactly where this “kindness” comes in. Love is kind. At the end of a long day, after cleaning the house and folding the laundry and giving baths and correcting homework and when I’m worn out and tired and exhausted and simply frazzled—am I kind? Is my love kind? When the running around stops and I’m just me with my family, am I kind? That’s where I feel the Lord encouraging me tonight. Homekeepers, we are busy ladies. There’s no doubt about it. We have a lot on our metaphorical plates and it seems we always have more items on our chore list than we have time for. When that quiet finally comes, even at our most exhausted moments, do we show our loved ones kindness?

After my daughter throws a temper tantrum and is punished, she will often come to me for a hug. While she is hurting, and hopefully regretting her actions, she still knows down deep that I love her so very much. Will I turn her away when she needs my affections, even when she’s been rude and sinful in her actions? No. I choose to show her kindness and mercy. She gets her punishment, but she will never reach the end of my kindness, nor my love. When my husband needs me to show him kindness, Lord may I be the one to do that with open arms and an encouraging smile. That’s God’s kind of love.

Love is kind. It’s a unique kindness that is part of our very nature when we have the love of God flowing through us. While we may not always feel like being kind, and we may even diminish that kindness in ourselves by being too bogged down by the cares of the world, may we submit our hearts to the Lord and show a sweet, warm kindness that heals and builds up our family and friends. God bless!

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Part 1: Love is Patient,The Loving Homekeeper Series

“Love is patient…” 1 Corinthians 13:4

The Greek word for “patient” used in this passage is the word “makrothymeō“. This word can be translated into “long-suffering, to be of a long spirit, not to lose heart, to persevere with dignity through trials, to be patient in bearing others offenses, to be slow to anger and slow to punish.” There is quite a lot to this word. In no way does the English word “patient” do it justice.

I’ve never considered myself a naturally patient person. I tend to have a short fuse, especially when I am tired (which I’ve been since ever since I became a mom). My husband has seen the brunt of my bad temper far too often in our marriage and he has shown be grace when I certainly didn’t deserve it. My lot in life is to fight against the flesh that tempts me to be short tempered and to pray that God’s Spirit makes me long-suffering. I long to be patient with my husband, children, church family and friends, and all those I come into contact with.

As a Keeper of His Home, the calling to patience is so very important because we wives and mothers have to put up with and yet our family looks to us to be stability. No matter how much we love our precious little ones, they try our patience and boy do they pounce at any sign of weakness. My daughter is only three years old and she tests me on a daily basis. I must brush off her offenses, no matter how difficult, and provide her with clear, controlled and rational punishment and re-direction. I must not allow my anger to boil over and then to become a bad example instead of a good one. I have to make it clear that, while I do not like her behavior sometimes, I ALWAYS love my little girl.

My husband is a calm and steady kind of a guy. He is easy-going. He is laid back. He doesn’t understand how I can go from cold to hot and everywhere in between in a matter of seconds. God has called me to be the kind of wife that is patient with my husband. I do not expect him to do everything right all the time. I am not quick to jump on every mistake he makes or to correct every wrong detail when he’s telling a story to friends. I must be willing to let things slide as I know beyond a doubt he does for me when I’m in the wrong.

God calls us to be patient keepers of the home. How frustrating is it when our family members don’t clean up after themselves and leave messes for us? What about when we cook a decent dinner and do not receive even a small compliment? These things are frustrating when we are so busy trying to keep up our homes. Still, we must put on patience, because love is patient. Our love for our family should birth patience. If it doesn’t, we aren’t loving right.

Please Lord help us to be the patient and loving Homekeepers You desire us to be! Amen!

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Teach Thy Children His Ways

The most important memory we can keep for our family is the memory of our testimony of God’s power in our lives in the in the lives of our husbands and children. We read in Psalms that we are to remember His wonderful works. When our children are old enough to understand, we want to tell them all about what God has done in our lives. How did God capture our hearts? How did He change our lives? How has He continued to work in our lives ever since? How has God directed our marriages and our methods of raising our kids? We want to remind our children constantly how much He loves them and how He wants to know them.

 “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.” Deuteronomy 6:6-9

“These words…shall be in thine heart,” oh woman of God. “Thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children.” God goes on to say that they will be bound to our hands, placed between our eyes and written on the very walls and posts of our homes. Why? So we never forget! God is commanding us to remember His Word and all of His wonderful works so that we can teach them to our children. If we love our children, we will remember God’s Word and we will remember to remind them of His Word as often as we can so that they may grow to love Him and walk in His ways. We must never forget what God has done and who our Lord Jesus Christ is. Praise the Lord!

With God’s Words anointing your home, and your heart skillfully keeping the memories of the family safe inside, your husband and children will be blessed by you and will rise up to call you blessed. They will see you as a treasure, far more valuable that rubies or gold. You hold their lives in your heart—every scar, every victory, every fear and sweet dream. Treasure these memories. Your unique female heart was made to hold them safe and sound.

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My Calling Towards Home Education

“And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.” Deuteronomy 6:6-9

I always attended public school growing up, as did my husband in Scotland. The school I went to from 4th to 8th grade was a great school in a small town and I felt that I got a good education there. I went on to a public high school and then straight to a four-year university to be trained up in music education. My ultimate goal was to become a high school choir director and to teach in public school myself. You can imagine the surprise when I felt the Lord turning my heart towards homeschooling just after I married my husband.

I was living in Scotland with my hubby when I started to think about home education. We lived in a small town where I would encounter the kids walking to their schools each morning. They all wore uniforms, some of which included mini-skirts that I found to be appalling. The words I would often hear from their mouths were even more disheartening, and ones I wouldn’t want to mention here for fear of offending my readers. I wondered how I would worry if one day I were sending my own children off to these schools. Would these be the kids they befriended and learned from? Would they be mocked when their mother wouldn’t allow the mini-wear? What about the material being taught?

I recall talking to a young lady from our church. She attended a Catholic school, which is quite common over there. She said that one of her nun teachers had instructed the class during “religion” class that Jesus really didn’t do a miracle and physically multiple the loaves and fish to feed the five-thousand plus. She said, “The real miracle was that He got the people to share and that’s what the story was trying to tell.” Yikes! A nun telling kids in public Catholic school that Jesus’ miracles were not to be taken literally?

This all got me thinking and praying. I talked to my pastor’s wife, who had been home schooled herself growing up, and is one of the finest women I know. We talked about the things our children would be force-fed in public school. They would be taught the theory of evolution as if it were fact and dismiss any suggestion of creation or a Creator. They would be taught the old-age of the earth as fact without mention of other possibilities or holes in the theories. They would be given sex-education classes where current issues of birth control, homosexuality, masturbation, sexual identity and abortion would be explained by secular teachers instead of parents. These, and many more issues, kept running through my mind and heart. After much prayer, research and Holy Spirit tugging I found myself sold on the concept of home education and my husband confirmed that he too was on board.

I’m not sharing this because I think everyone needs to homeschool. Perhaps homeschooling isn’t for everyone. Not all women can stay at home to teach. Many have to work outside the home to make ends meet. Others feel that they aren’t equipped with the patience to homeschool and that’s okay. I’m not sharing my story as a means to judge or put down anyone who has chosen to use public education. I know many awesome Christian parents who have gone this route and who have great kids. I am simply sharing my calling towards home education, how God put it on my heart and why I believe it’s what He wants me personally to do.

Luke 6:40A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher.”

1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.'”

Proverbs 13:20 “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but the companion of fools suffers harm.”

Romans 12:2 “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

These are some of the verses that encourage me in my decision to homeschool. Jesus said in Luke that a student becomes like the teacher. While I know many wonderful teachers out there and respect them thoroughly, I also know that I cannot ensure every teacher my daughter would sit under would be a Christian, and that is important to me. I want my daughter to be influenced by people under the influence of the Holy Spirit. Along the same lines I want to know that the children my daughter forms close friendships with are also being trained up in the Lord. I want to know they are being taught purity, good character and morality. While we are called to be lights to this world, I believe it is wise to wait until my daughter is older and firmly founded in the Word herself before exposing her to the world to shine.

We as parents as supposed to train up our children. We are also supposed to prioritize what are the most important things for them to learn. While my daughter will be fully educated in math, science, history, geography, literature, etc., a big part of her studies will also be in the Bible. I love that we can start each day with Bible and prayer time. She will learn about evolution and creation. She will learn about history…all the way back to the Garden of Eden. She will learn about how God made her female and what that means from her mother. She will also learn how to cook (hopefully better than me!) and clean and take care of a home. I get excited just thinking about it!

I have faced all of the stereotypes and stigmas attached to homeschoolers by those who have questioned our choice and all I can say is that I have found them to be in error. I have taught a homeschooling choir for over three years and have worked with over 45 homeschooling families. Getting to know these kids I have found them to be nothing at all as they are portrayed by those who don’t agree with homeschooling. They are delightful, bright, respectful, social and sweet kids who just shine. I adore them and their parents! In my time I have only met one family that was a little different, but the rest have been wonderful! Statistics also show that home educated children often graduate early from high school and do very well in college.

Again, I want to make it clear that I am not saying my way is the only way. I know there are great schools out there and wonderful teachers. I know that good, involved parents can and do keep up with what their kids are being taught and continue to train the kids after school hours in the things of the Lord. I am not judging others for going with public school. I am simply sharing my personal calling and why my husband and I have felt guided by the Lord into homeschooling our little ones. It is a challenge and a blessing, and I can’t wait to see what the future will hold as we continue down this path. God bless!

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Turn the Wheel!

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” Ephesians 5:22-24

Many godly wives are far too quick and eager to take up the reins of control when it seems their husbands are leading the household off course. They either take control by force, acting against their husband’s will or they manipulate and nag their husband until he changes his mind for fear of losing it! We are all guilty of doing this at some point and to some degree in our marriages, but these tactics, although usually effective, are not at all in line with what God says about the roles of husband and wife in marriage. God is clear that wives are to be in submission to their own husbands. The Word also tells us that husbands are head over the household. That means wives are not meant to run the show, wear the pants or be the boss. Our husbands are supposed to be in the driver’s seats and we are in the passenger seats. So hand over the keys ladies and trust the Lord.

I have an excellent example of taking the reins too early in my own marriage. My husband is from Scotland and we moved to California in 2007. Unfortunately he never learned how to drive in the U.K. so he got his learning permit and set about to get his California Drivers License. To get him ready for the test I had to teach him how to drive. Big mistake. Big! One day he was practicing driving around a parking lot and I suddenly felt that he wasn’t pulling over quite as much as he should to avoid hitting the curb. Without hesitation I reached right across him and grabbed the wheel, causing a little bit of a struggle, as he was pulling the wheel the other direction at the same time. I was quite surprised to find my husband was less than happy with my reaction and with me taking the wheel without giving him a chance to correct it himself.

The truth is he was right to be upset. We were in no danger. I was merely being impatient and not giving him the benefit of the doubt that he could work it out himself. By me taking the wheel I was telling him that I didn’t trust him or think that he could do it on his own. I doubted his capability. In my mind I was simply correcting a problem. As wives we need to be discerning and trust God enough to let our husbands steer the car. We know that God is in control. We know that He works all things together for the good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. We know that we all learn from mistakes. Take my advice ladies; don’t take the reins out of your husbands’ hands when you think he’s going in the wrong direction. Allow him to lead and trust the Lord. You will be blessed because of it and your marriage will have peace instead of struggle.

When we look at scripture, we see a long list of women who manipulated their husbands in order to get their own way. Let’s start with Eve in the Garden of Eden, feeding her husband bad fruit (Genesis 3). Adam should have been leading, but Eve took the reins and led them both into temptation and the first sin. Should Adam have refused to follow her into sin? The answer is clearly yes, which is why both were disciplined by the Lord. However, would Adam have ever considered eating the fruit if not for his wife’s encouragement? Perhaps not. How about Sarah and Abraham (Genesis 16)? Sarah’s deep desire to give an heir to her husband prompted her to convince her husband to commit adultery with her own handmaid, Hagar, and to produce the son of the flesh, Ishmael. Once the son of promise, Isaac, came along, there was tremendous friction and subsequent pain. We certainly cannot forget Delilah (Judges 16) and how she manipulated Samson, causing him to lose his hair, his strength, his connection with the Holy Spirit (for a time) and eventually his life.

These are just a few examples of women manipulating their men, but manipulation may not always be leading our husbands into sin. Sometimes it is simply leading them in a different direction than they feel God has called them. A man and woman get married and the woman wants to have a child right away, while the man feels they should wait for a few years so that they can spend time together as a married couple first. The woman seduces her husband and conveniently forgets to take her birth control pills. Whoops! Now certainly there is no sin when it comes to sex in marriage, nor is having children a sin, but the refusal of the wife to follow her husband and her manipulation is far from fitting behavior for a daughter of the King. Perhaps you want to move to the beach but your husband feels called to buy a home in the mountains. Circling the ads for lovely beach homes for sale and leaving them sitting on his favorite chair when he comes home is not the way to do it. Neither is crying and complaining all day and night until you get your way. These are tactics of manipulation and are not in line with God’s Word.

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Obama’s Response to the Attack on US Embassies

“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” 2 Ch 7:14

Please excuse me for taking a break from my normal subject matter to interject my feelings on a most pressing issue for the American people. My heart has been saddened and my anger stirred up as I’ve been watching the events unfold over at our Embassies in Egypt and Libya over the past couple days. For those who do not know, mobs have stormed our Embassies in both of these countries. The riots started in Egypt, where the thugs tore down the American flag, replacing it with one that represents Islam and is often used by Al Queda terrorists. The riots there continue. In Libya, our Embassy was stormed and four Americans were murdered, including our Ambassador Chris Stephens. Now they are rioting at the Embassy in Yemen as well. All of it starting by design no doubt on the eleventh anniversary of the 9/11 attacks.

To get a few more facts straight, they are claiming that these attacks were brought on by the release of a video by some guy in FL that spoke negatively about the Muslim prophet Mohammad. As the Embassy in Cairo started hearing about the riots that were about to start, they released a statement saying that they condemned misguided people hurting the feelings of Muslims. Condemn freedom of speech? It was a glorified apology to the terrorists who were almost at their gate. Then the riots started and Cairo released another statement standing by the original one.

So basically Muslim terrorists have attacked the US again, this time via our embassies, and have done so purposefully as we mourn the lives they took on 9/11/01, and our President has made it clear to them that we are sorry for hurting their feelings? Shocking. Shame on you and your administration Mr. President! I don’t care if we hurt the feelings of terrorists. Our government should be standing up for what we believe in instead of trying to appease and please these murderers. These terrorists understand nothing but violence. You won’t fix this problem by having long conversations or asking Israel to give up more land. They hate Israel and they hate us and they will continue to kill us until they have made us submit to their religion unless we stand up and do something about it!

We do not need a passive poodle in the White House, saying all the right things and looking good but without any bite in him. We need a pit bull. We need a rottweiler. We need someone who can lead America as a strong nation so that we can protect our children, our people, our ambassadors and our way of life. President Obama’s speech in the Rose Garden regarding these attacks was infuriating. There was no heart in it. His words were like dry leaves blowing in the wind. We needed to see some spirit in him. We needed to see that he was outraged by what has happened. Where is his passion? Where is his anger? We needed to see that, but more importantly the rest of the world needed to see it. The terrorists needed to see it. Stop apologizing to them and tell them this will not be tolerated. Tell them that attacks on Americans is an act of war and go after them. We will not allow it!

I think the timing is so very important here. Why are these riots breaking out? Because the terrorists see a president who is weak and who refuses to acknowledge the truth about what’s going on over there. Why is the Egyptian government not stopping the riot in Cairo? Because they don’t fear Obama. Not at all. He won’t retaliate. He won’t act. He will apologize that some little guy in FL made a movie that hurt their feelings. Stop apologizing and let our capable and amazing troops go take these guys out!

My fellow Americans, I fear to think of what will become of our nation and our foreign relations if we have another four years of this administration. It’s time to elect a new president—one who will lead our country in strength. We need a president who recognizes that we are at war with terror and that we must never back down while there are people willing to take innocent lives in the name of their religion. We need a president who will make it abundantly clear that attacks on America will not be tolerated and that to attack us is to bring peril on yourselves. It doesn’t matter if we are Republicans, Democrats or Libertarians…we need to vote for Romney for President. For the safety of our country and my family I will vote for Romney. Thanks for reading.

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I am Tired and Heavy-Laden

“‘Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.'” Matthew 11:28-30

Are you tired and heavy-laden? Burdened down by the weight of trials and tribulations in your homes, community, church and family? If you are feeling heavy-laden, you are not alone. We live in a world full of burdens indeed and so often we feel that we have too much to bear on our shoulders, yet we know God only gives us what we can handle. In the scripture above the word for “labor” is to “grow weary, tired and exhausted from toiling; to labor with wearisome effort.” The word “heavy-laden” is one that can also be translated as “loaded down by a burden”. We get a picture of a person who is struggling to carry on under the gross weight of a burden too heavy for any person to carry alone. Yes, too heavy to bear alone. That’s why Jesus finished so mercifully with an invitation to take upon ourselves His yoke.

This yoke has a double meaning. A yoke was a bondage that was placed around the necks of cattle to keep them working together as a team, pulling a cart or farming equipment. The yoke kept the cattle moving the same direction. Two cattle pulling a heavy load together evenly distributes the weight so that the burden is lighter. Jesus offers his yoke to us. His burden is light because He is a mighty, powerful God! We are never alone in our burdens when Jesus is carrying them with us! We can trust Him!

The yoke is also a reference to the difference between the Law and God’s new covenant. The Law put a heavy burden upon the people that they could not bear or fulfill. It was a bondage of chains that brought condemnation and defeat. Then the grace of God came and melted those chains with the blood of a pure and spotless Lamb. His yoke is easy and light because all we have to do to receive salvation is give Him our hearts and follow. We are not bound by the heavy Law but free in Christ’s redeeming sacrifice. We still strive to please Him in our lives, but we do that because of our love for Him and gratitude of changed hearts.

Tonight as I write this I am heavy-laden and burdened. Burdens are pressing down and all around I see people suffering. I see my own failures and repent of my sins. I am burdened for the lost and dying—for those who don’t know the love of Christ. I am tired of the struggle, the trials and the tears. Yet, as I read His Word and dwell on His goodness, my strength is renewed. My heart is refreshed and my burdens lighten. I feel Him place His yoke on me and bid me to come His way. I hear Him comfort me with Words so sweet and gentle and I know He will make goodness of all of the badness in this world. He will make beauty from ashes.

So I thank the Lord that this heavy-laden woman is not left to carry the burden alone. When I can’t walk anymore He will carry me. When I don’t have the Words to speak, the Spirit will intercede for me. When I am troubled by the trials, He will comfort my broken heart. Praising Jesus tonight, for His yoke is easy!

“Have you not known? Have you not heard? The everlasting God, the LORD, The Creator of the ends of the earth, Neither faints nor is weary. His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the weak, And to those who have no might He increases strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, And the young men shall utterly fall, but those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles. They shall run and not be weary. They shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:28-31

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When Your Husband is in Sin

No doubt there are going to be times when your husband is in sin. We all sin and we are married to sinners. The Word says if we claim to have no sin we make ourselves liars, which is a sin! So dear, imperfect wife, your imperfect husband will most assuredly sin from time to time. If he is not a Christian, then he will be often in sin and without remorse or conviction, and you need to know how to deal with that.

First of all, it is important that you never attempt to take over the spiritual leadership of the household, even if your husband is not walking right with the Lord. He is still head of the house, and you must still be in submission. If he is in sin, and is open to it, share with him respectfully and lovingly where he may be in sin. Then leave the matter alone and commit it to the Lord in prayer. Do not nag him or continue to push the subject. Pray fervently and allow God to do His work in your husband’s heart. Remember, if your husband is not saved he will not have the conviction of the Holy Spirit, therefore attacking individual sins is only dealing with the symptoms of the real illness. He needs to have a relationship with Jesus Christ, so make that the top of your prayer list for however long it takes. And have hope sister! God hears the prayers of a wife who is in obedience.

“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.” 1 Peter 3:1-2

This verse says it all. What precious words of wisdom! Wives, be in submission to your own husbands. If they do not obey the word, they may be won over without the word by the chaste conversations of their wives. Now this is an interesting verse indeed and one that is sometimes looked at in the wrong way. It says “if any obey not the word.” The “word” is the Greek word “logos” which can mean just a portion of speech, but in most cases refers to the holy Word of God, or the precepts given to man by God. It is also the same word that is used as another name for Jesus Christ in John 1 when it says, “the Word became flesh and dwelt among us.” So, the scripture is describing a husband who is not obeying God’s Word and certainly not obeying Jesus Christ.

Now look at the second part of that sentence. It says he may “without the word be won.” Many people look at this passage and think it is saying the husband may be won without his wife saying anything, meaning without her nagging or instruction and so forth. Interestingly this is also the word “logos” and notice it says “THE word” not “A word”. Therefore according to context it makes sense that the scripture is saying the husband may be won over without the Word of God being constantly presented to him, simply by the conversation of his wife. Conversation doesn’t just mean speech either. It is the Greek word “anastrophē” which means, “manner of life, conduct, and behavior.” Husbands can be won over by the example their wives show in their own lives. What manner of behavior or conduct is that? Chaste and reverent behavior is what does the trick. A godly wife can win her husband to the Lord by her pure, good and honorable behavior and by the reverence she shows her husband as she submits to God’s plan for her life. Now that is incredible.

See the picture here ladies? If you husband is in sin, it is not fruitful for you to be preaching at him day and night, usurping spiritual authority over him. Rather, as you honor him, according to God’s Word, and live your life in a way that pleases the Lord, your husband may be won over. This is true also if your husband is a godly man in most respects but has an area of struggle with sin. Do not nag him or criticize him. Pray for him and continue to be the wife God wants you to be, remembering that your submission and respect unto your husband is not based on his love for you or his submission to God. If you refuse to submit it is God whom you are sinning against. If your husband refuses to go with you to church, do not lose heart. As he observes God’s love and truth in your life, he will see the Word being lived out in you. Ask the Lord to use you in this way to minister to your husband.

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