Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

The Bread of Idleness

on August 21, 2012

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”    Proverbs 31:27

Oh what a challenge this is! This is one area in which many homemakers struggle, including the one penning this very sentence!. Every wife and mother knows that there is always so much to do. I always say being a mother is the hardest job. Yet sometimes this isn’t the case the case at all. There are certainly some wives and mothers who take their roles at home lightly, and who spend much of their time “eating the bread of idleness.” There is a difference between simple “being” a wife and mother and “being a good” wife and mother.

Let me give you an example. You walk into a home at three o’clock in the afternoon. The television is on with one of those court reality shows no doubt. A toddler is playing on the floor. She’s obviously not been bathed, still wearing her pajamas, with her lovely hair in a mess of tangles on her head. Her lunch is still sitting on a plate on the floor, providing evidence of her typical nutritious diet of a hotdog and chips. The house is a mess. That’s not to say it is simply messy but dirty also. The carpets have not been vacuumed for weeks. The kitchen counter is piled high with dirty dishes. The laundry is forming one of the walls of the master bedroom as if it were part of the actual structure, which is probably why the kid is still in her pajamas! Meanwhile, the mother is stretched out on the couch, waiting in anticipation to find out if the plaintiff is going to get the judgment. The bread of idleness.

I want to be clear here that I am not criticizing anyone for taking a break once in a while. Having children and taking care of a home is hard work. Everyone needs a break from time to time. I am also not saying that a house has to be spotless or tidy around the clock. There are certainly times when my house gets cluttered and messy. What I am pointing out here is that being a good wife and mother is hard work because it involves putting some effort into it.

Bathing and dressing the children, keeping up with housework and providing healthy nutrition for the family is all important. It is easy to be idle and lazy with the many distractions we have today. Since I started working from home, I have had to make a rule for myself that I will not watch television during the day while my husband is at work. I have a TV stand that closes so you cannot even see the unit, and I keep it closed throughout the day as a reminder. I do this because I could easily get caught up in idleness and I don’t want to be that kind of wife and mother.

         “As vinegar to the teeth and smoke to the eyes, so is the lazy man to those who send him.” Proverbs 10:26

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2 responses to “The Bread of Idleness

  1. Awesome post, Chelsea! I remember when my older two were so little maybe 2 and 4, I was hooked on soaps (not the cleaning kind!), as I witnessed this from my mom and older siblings. My house was clean, dinners on the table, laundry mostly done all the time and yet, I was eating the bread of idleness every afternoon. It was like I worked hard all morning, just so I can have that afternoon of idleness. Praise the Lord that homeschooling was the blessing that took my mornings, removing my idle afternoons.

    Once I get my blog up and running, hopefully soon, I would love to have you as a guest writer.

    • Thanks for sharing Dollie! It’s nice to know we are not alone in our struggles. I was blessed too by canceling our cable service so now we only get one channel and rarely watch TV at all. Sometimes my hubby and I cuddle up to watch a movie together but that’s our cuddly time so it’s all good. Even then we often find we have more quality time when we do something else like play a game or read to each other. Praising the Lord that He is constantly working in our hearts and lives! Amen! God bless!

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