Keeper of His Home

by Chelsea McCafferty

Keeper Ministries

Welcome to “Keeper Ministries”, where the desire of our hearts is to fulfill the calling of the Lord God of the Bible to be keepers of the home. We strive to minister to our families according to the Word of God, and to build homes filled with joy, peace and love. God says that we serve Him by serving our family, friends and all who He puts in our path. In this busy world of materialism and declining morality, where divorce enters into half of the home in America, it is evermore important to return to God’s perfect plan for the home. We build our homes on the Rock so that they will not be shaken or destroyed when the storms of life and the attacks of the enemy come. Please be encouraged here and may you find complete joy in being the keeper of His home. God bless!

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“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5

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February/March

Loving all of this beautiful weather and giving thanks to God for the rain we so badly need in California! I’ll be leading worship at the Tulare County Women of the Word Conference in Porterville the last weekend of February. Looking forward to that. We will also be taking a trip up to San Francisco to see my Lyme specialist this month. Treatment is going well but definitely hard on the body. So appreciative of my supportive husband and friends and for all of the prayers! Valentine’s Day is coming up! Don’t forget to do something special for your beloved!

Why Focus on Marriage?

I have heard more than a couple times people criticizing some Christians and churches for focusing too much on the God-given and God-designed union of marriage. I’ve heard people make statements like, “oh it’s all about marriage at that church” or “they elevate marriage too much.” I wanted to address the issue of why marriage is an important topic to discuss, but first I’d like to talk about why there are people who seem to be offended by too much marriage talk.

People like myself, who feel called to the ministry of marriage, may sometimes struggle with being understanding of a person who seems almost anti-marriage. The truth in most cases is those who have a hard time with a church or a group focusing a lot on marriage  are usually people who are single, widowed or in a lonely, struggling marriage. It’s important that instead of getting frustrated, we understand that these ladies are going through pain. Perhaps hearing about marriage all of the time and seeing married couples always clinging to each other causes them to long even more for that relationship. Perhaps it makes them mourn for a lost love. Even worse, it reminds them that they feel trapped in an unloving marriage. Sometimes there is a problem with the church not meeting the needs of ALL the members. The singles and widows need focus too. They need ministry and opportunities to serve too.

I think I understand their perspective more so being a woman who has struggled with infertility. While children are such a blessing, and I was always happy for a sister in the Lord who had a baby, there was also such hurt and longing in me that it was sometimes difficult to be around pregnant women or people with babies. It was hard to see the children being such a focus when I couldn’t have any. I’m so grateful now for my precious little girl –  a gift straight from God! I do, however, see how a single person or widow would feel neglected and hurt by a church family that focused all its attention on marriage.

That being said, while I feel we should not neglect or ignore anyone, there is an important place for marriage. Here are some reasons why marriage is an extremely important issue to focus on:

1. Marriage is Gift from God: God focuses a lot on relationships in the Bible, and He speaks a great deal on the topic of marriage. He created marriage in the book of Genesis and He make it sacred. He made it to be a lifelong covenant, and in Malachi 2 we see that God hates the act of divorcing. When Jesus is asked about divorce in Matthew 19:8, He said that divorce was allowed because of the hardening of hearts, but from the beginning it was not so. God never wanted divorce. That’s why marriage vows typically say “til death do we part”, and yet to some 41-44% of couples who marry today, those are just empty words.

2. Christian marriage produces godly offspring: In talking about marriage Malachi said, “But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.” Malachi 2:15a. Christian marriage is important to the youth of this generation. According to the US Census Bureau, grown children of happily married parents are about 14% less likely to divorce their own spouse. Of all children, close to half will witness the end of their parents’ marriage and, of those kids, half of them will witness the end of a parent’s second marriage as well. According to an article by the Huffington post, children of divorce are seven times more likely to suffer from depression. Also, of all the adolescents in substance rehabilitation clinics, some 75% are from single-parent homes. Similar statistics are true for prison. Marriage is important because a godly marriage is good for children.

3. Marriage is a reflection of our relationship with God: Ephesians 5 and other parts of scripture show us that earthly marriage is a reflection of the relationship of Christ and the church. We are the bride and He is the Bridegroom. “Then one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls filled with the seven last plagues came to me and talked with me, saying, “Come, I will show you the bride, the Lamb’s wife.” Revelation 21:9

4. A godly marriage is a requirement for church leadership, elders/pastors and deacons. (Titus 1:6, 1 Tim 3:2, 1 Tim 3:12). A man whose home in not in order should not be serving in church leadership until he puts things right. That means a wife who is not living her life according to God’s statutes can disqualify her husband from leadership by her conduct. Does this mean that a man has to be married to serve? We don’t know if the emphasis of the verses in on the “one” wife or “husband”. In other words, is it important that he’s married, or just that he only has one as opposed to many? Well, God said that it wasn’t good for man to be alone and he needed a helper. On the other hand, Paul said that some are called to singleness. So, the answer is: I don’t know. What we do know for certain is that if a man is married, and he wants to serve in ministry, he should have his home in order.

5. Sex: That’s right! “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:2 According to God’s Word, sexual intimacy is only good and right inside the union of marriage. Today more and more couples choose to live together and put off getting married. They are living in sexual sin because marriage has lost its place of importance to much of the younger generation. Today people are shocked when two virgins in their twenties get married. It’s rare for people to hold onto their purity. So it’s important to focus on marriage and to teach the young people that sex is only okay inside marriage.

There are many more reasons that marriage is an important topic, but this is quite a long blog already. While we need to be careful not to exclude singles and our widows, we also need to focus even more on the union of marriage. We know that it’s important to God, so it should be important to us too.

Statement of Beliefs

* I believe the Bible is the inerrant, God-inspired authority on faith, life, love and all things past, present and future.

* I believe there is one God, the God of the Bible, who has three personas: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. They are one, but also triune.

* I believe God created the world as told in the Genesis account in the Bible, therefore everything belongs to Him.

* I believe Jesus Christ is the Son of God, and God in the flesh, who came to earth to die as a spotless sacrifice for our sins. He was crucified, buried in a tomb and rose again on the third day. He is at the right hand of the Father in Paradise. He is the only way to the Father and to find salvation from sins.

* I believe for a person to become a Christian, he/she must confess and repent of their sins, believe in the Jesus Christ of the Bible (not another version of Him) and follow Him. Good fruit is the evidence that will follow a changed heart. 

* I believe God created marriage, therefore He defines what is it, what is should look like and how to achieve a wonderful union.

* I believe God desires for His people to be in one accord, blessing each other and sharing in love to edify the body as a whole. Christian community is important.

* I believe that the Holy Spirit is the power of ministry today, continuing to convict, empower, edify, comfort, guide and direct His people.

Chelsea McCafferty, Keeper of His Home, keeper of the home, Christian wife, Christian wives, blog for Christian wives, blog for wives, Christian women, Proverbs 31, Proverbs 31 wives, homemaking, home keeper, keeper ministries, Christian speaker, public Christian speaker, Christian speaker California, Christian marriage, marriage and God, blog for Christian marriage, keepers at home, home keeper, keeper at home, keepers of the home

6 responses to “Keeper Ministries

  1. ashestoohope says:

    Hope you can help me with my marriage.

    • I will help in any way I can sister. If you’d like to email me we can chat and I’d be happy to encourage you. Praying for you now. My email is chelsea_mccafferty @yahoo.com (take out the space).

  2. Linda says:

    Thank u for praying, I can feel God bringing me the peace I need. Bless you.

  3. I can’t believe that Jesus’s murder is the means of human salvation. His birth and his life are the means of my salvation.
    My every moment, every gesture waking or sleeping is a prayer that Jesus forgive us for the sick atrocity committed against him by our ancestors. His murder is not my salvation. I know this isn’t about marriage but I fear we would differ even further on that. I love Jesus but there is no place for me in the church.

    • Michael thank you for sharing. It seems you have made up your own mind about the things of God. My knowledge of God isn’t based on my opinions or logic but rather on the Word of God. The Bible is how we know anything about God and it is trustworthy. The church is God’s people and I pray someday you will be comfortable being a part of it.

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